Attitude and body type

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Attitude and body type
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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 5:54am

Yesterday afternoon I was out at the mall and had to stop in Radio Shack. The person waiting on me was an average looking female about 20ish or so (which is a good thing because this story would be a bit freakish if I was writing about a guy).

But what made average become superhuman was her attitude.

She was smiling, friendly, helpful. When I left the store I thought - geez this person must get hit on all the time - she is just so attractive -- but you wouldn't have thought that before interacting with her. When I walked in she was just another typical salesperson.

The moral of the story? Well there was chit chat about body type a few days ago - and I think that's largely hogwash.

Attraction is so much more about attitude and being happy and helpful than looking a certain way and having a certain weight. ok, so maybe you already know that - but when you see a living example it really drives the point home. Attitude + Smile are far greater attraction tools that simply being a certain weight. Guaranteed (and I'm never wrong )

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:19am

Well, hardly hogwash, since I was writing about my experiences. It is a fact that the majority of men's profiles ask for small women (just like a majority of women's ask for tall men).

But I agree with your theory on attitude. It is the secret to my non-OLD successes. I just can't seem to get it across through pictures and written words.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 11:33am

I think you're right, LG, but unfortunately, it's pretty much impossible to overcome the bias against being a bit overweight that is prevalent online. Proportionately, VERY few men check "any" on body type and few include "a few extra pounds" in their list of acceptable matches. So, I just don't even get the chance to dazzle them with my attitude and personality! I reviewed close to 400 profiles on Yahoo yesterday...and only contacted 12, in large part because most of them were not open to dating someone with my body type.

The same is true of age...men who meet me in person probably wouldn't count me out because I'm 46, because of my attitude, but I don't meet single men in person, as a rule, so I'm stuck with the challenges of OLD. I am toying with the idea of doing speed dating however...

Sheri

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 11:45am

>>...but when you see a living example it really drives the point home. Attitude + Smile are far greater attraction tools that simply being a certain weight.<<

Absolutley and true for men and women. But that is one of the problems with OLD. You just can't get that cross in a proifle. Which brings up SP's post about video dating, but then, you'd have to be able to present that great personality on tape...another hurdle.

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 12:01pm

>>You just can't get that cross in a proifle. Which brings up SP's post about video dating, but then, you'd have to be able to present that great personality on tape...another hurdle.

I disagree and am living proof that you can.

No way those women would have been contacting me just based on photo. Too many other guys in wifebeaters posing in front of mustangs...

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 12:19pm

Much better LG; see; now with that attitude you’ll be meeting a great woman soon as you get it about people and what’s truly important.

I may not agree with Prince Charles but his now soon to be wife (mistress of 35 years) isn’t exactly Lady Diana but something about her floats his boat deeper than looks or what looks good on paper!

Peanut

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 8:40pm

Okay, I give up. What the heck is a wifebeater?

And, lg, the only thing your experience proves is that women look at your photographs (you have good ones) and then read your friggin profile (you are funny and charming).

I thought it was considered fact by many women on this Board that the majority of men contacting them couldn't possibly have read their profiles!

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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 9:47pm
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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 9:53pm
Thanks. The things I've learned here!!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 9:00am

I definitely agree with that. A person who you would not normally be attracted to can become the most attractive person in the world because of the attitude and personality.

Pat

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 11:01am
LMAO

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