A, B, C... maybe not for me?
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A, B, C... maybe not for me?
| Mon, 05-16-2005 - 8:18pm |
Met a really nice guy online and in our initial conversation, he told me that he doesn't like to read. My initial reaction was not so good. This may seem like something trivial to be bothered by, but I love reading... I'm far from a nerd, but I like a man who will read for knowledge or fun...
I don't want to be judgemental and kill off a possible good thing, but I'm having a hard time getting over this issue. Am I picking on something too small here? Or am I justified in being a little apprehensive about meeting up with a guy who says that reading is boring?
Sock it to me! :)

I'd at least meet him.
I know where you're coming from; I read a lot as well and if someone says they don't read, I assume that they spend Sunday afternoons in their BVDs watching NASCAR. (Not that there's anything wrong with that ;-)
But I've met lots of people who are brilliant and engaging, but who expand their brains in ways other than reading. Maybe they spend time online, maybe they watch Discovery Channel, maybe they're part of the local debate team. I don't think I ever saw my ex-husband read a book in eleven years, but his car was littered with books on tape -- one of them was Stephen Hawking's "A Brief History of Time!"
So be apprehensive, but at least give the guy a shot.
Tracy
Hi Bklyn,
I agree that I would at least meet him, if he has lots of your other 'oars in the water', per what you desire in a man.
But...I was a lit major and someone who has good syntax (hell, if they even Know what syntax is...this is Texas!) and can spell Were def criteria for me. Tall Man and I have little time for lots of reading, but we have read a lot of the same books when we had time, and both carry books with us on planes--yay! We will bring magazines and papers and read them together, leading to cool discussions. Howevah...he has a Bachelors and a Masters degree, but if he did not have Heart...adios!
Let me Brat This, because I was NOT about to go to coffee with the man that wrote me when I was on OLD: "I would like to MEAT a good woman"...Cupcake, the Other White Meat? I think Not!
Again, use your intuition and do as You please.
truly,
Cupcake
I would also meet him, you may connect with him in other ways, most people have some different interests than the person they are dating so that's not a big deal. I actually kind of prefer a guy who ISN'T into what I am into exactly (writing, improv comedy and art) but who does appreciate it and knows that it is my thing and will be supportive of it.
One thing that is a huge turn off right away for me is bad spelling though, I know it is shallow, but if someone has a lot of words spelled wrong it just gets under my skin because I do enjoy writing.
I agree with the others. Meet for a quick drink or a cup of coffee.
Personally I'm a reader. I'm curious by nature and am always reading books, newspapers, magazines, journals, internet, etc... Perhaps he learns other ways than reading books.
My most recent ex, A, hated to pick up a book and could only get about a chapter into any book before putting it down for good. But he was a very intelligent, curious man- read several newspapers online, watched educational TV shows, etc. Maybe he just has a different medium than you.
But, if you are somewhat of an intellecutal and he doesn't read anything or isn't interested in learning about the world around you- then I'd cut him loose.
A first meet won't kill you, and it might be easier to tell how "educated" (for lack of a better word) he is.
Good Luck and Have Fun!