Bachelor #1

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Bachelor #1
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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 9:13am
Okay, I am getting the feeling that Bachelor #1 is just keeping me on the back burner, which has been my suspision (sp?) since the get-go. So I am going to take one poster's advise and leave him alone and if he wants to communicate and ask me out again then great. But if I don't hear from him, then I know that he just wasnt that into me. My only thing is if and when I see him again for another date, do you all think it would be ok for me to lightly approach the topic and question his intentions? I mean I have nothing to lose right?
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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: kae_n_me
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 9:24am

Do you mean ask his intentions in general? That's fine - ie clarifying if he's looking for a LTR or just casual dating.

Asking his intentions towards you specifically? Way too soon.

Sounds like he ghosted, though. Just another day in the world of OLD.


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Registered: 06-27-2005
In reply to: kae_n_me
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 9:36am
Yeah, asking what he is trying to achieve from OLD... no, not his intentions towards me. I mean if he thinks we click then I'd like to know that as well. But I don't even know what my intentions are for HIM....I would just like to go out on another date and get to know him, you know? GRRRR... he will call or text me but he hasn't approached the topic of going out again. I know, I know,..I can hear some of you now...


Edited 8/30/2005 10:09 am ET ET by kae_n_me
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Registered: 08-28-2005
In reply to: kae_n_me
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 6:44pm

Why do you have to even ask! If he is not into you then you need to quit worrying about him and move on. I love that book "He Is Just Not That Into You" and it is so true, me and some friends have been doing the things in the book and not letting these guys walk on us anymore! It doesn't mean we are mean or anything, just that we let his actions speak for themselves!

If a guy is into you he will let you know, he will be serious and you don't have to have any conversations about what his intentions are or anything like that. Once a guy is into you his intention will be to be around you as much as possible!

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Registered: 06-27-2005
In reply to: kae_n_me
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 4:16pm
Update on Bachelor #1... he emails me today - "hey there good looking"... and then followed by the normal chit chat banter. I emailed him back the normal response...so, we will see. But it follows his patterns... I am able to predict his contact moves!