Back to the Drawing Board

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Back to the Drawing Board
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 8:54am

Those of you who are experienced at OLD will probably say that this is terribly typical, but I thought I'd share it for the benefit of those like me who are new at this.

Last weekend I had three OLD guys that had winked/written to me and I was corresponding with them to see if one or more would materialize into possible dates. I also had one guy who I dated last Saturday who wanted to date me again. He hadn't swept me off my feet, but he was nice and all I am looking for right now is good company for a few dates.

Well, all three of the "possible" guys I was e-mailing with turned out to be "not so possible" and the date I went on last night turned out to be "not so fun," and I've decided not to go out with him again-- so today I am back to the drawing board. Not a single "nibble" this week, not even from one of the out-of-state kooks who send form letters.

I'm not complaining. I'm content with what I've got so far out of OLD. I just think it's amusing how quickly the situation changes in OLD.

Elsa

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 12:32pm

It does work that way. Two weeks ago I was dating two laywers and a doctor. I had 2 dates each with both lawyers and 3 dates with the DR. One of the lawyers and I it was a mutual "not interested" the lawyer I liked we had a third date scheduled, he even confirmed the night before and told me where we were going on our date, calls me the next morning at 9 AM to cancel as this other girl he had been dating for two weeks wanted to be exclusive and he thought it was the right thing to do. The DR called that same day and asked me point blank, Peanut do you have chemistry with me and I was honest and said not the kind I need to go out with you a fourth time!

Last night I had a second date with a writer. Normally I stay away from writers and anyone in the entertainment field - still not sure but I have a blast with him, we have a ton in common (almost too much alike, kind of bizarre) (he makes me laugh which is rare), but long term (i.e. stability) - I still have that question mark in my head as the stakes are higher at my age as far as investing. I'll know more after a few more dates.

Hang in there...takes time and that is why I say date in multiples - your hot one week and the next "nada" also keep in mind it's 4th of July week - most people are out of town and on vacation right now. By next weekend things will pick up again.

Ms. Peanut

 
 
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 2:11pm

Hey Ms. Peanut,

"Dating in multiples" is easier for those of you below 40 and slender than for those of us over 40 (I am 50) and with "a few extra pounds." ;) If, like me, you are also looking for professionals, the pool of possible dates is even smaller. There are relatively few doctors and lawyers in my age bracket, in my area, on Match. Most of them want to date younger and more slender women. So I don't have your choices.

Luckily, I don't feel an urgent need for more. I am not looking for the love of my life. Been there, done that. If the love of my life turns up, great. If not, I'll settle for a few good dates.

One reason I've revised my profile so that it emphasizes that I want friends more than a romantic relationship is that I don't really think I'm going to find a great match. I am happy finding a few good dates. I will indeed "hang in there," but my expectations are low.

And at some point I may just decide it is not worth the bother. I really admire your energy and hope you find someone soon.

Elsa

(edited for clarity)




Edited 7/2/2006 6:43 pm ET by elarisa