back from the "meeting"

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back from the "meeting"
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 1:38pm

Well, we had lunch. I was very pleased with him. He seemed like a really nice guy but the problem was me. I did talk some but went blank most of the time and he was doing most of the talking. We did just chat on IM Thurs night for 2 hours so I didn't find there was a whole lot to talk about. Talking on there like that kinda ruins it sometimes. He asked me if I had any questions for him and I said I was sorry but am kinda going blank, so he noticed it too. Like I said, we emailed and chatted so much, I guess I found out so much about him already. He paid for the whole lunch. I should've offered to pay half but I didn't. He did ask me out to begin with though,if that makes a difference.
Anyway, when we were leaving, he said I shouldn't have been so shy and I agreed. He seemed a little disappointed that he had to do most of the talking and I don't blame him.
He asked if I wanted a drive somewhere but I said no, I already had a drive. He told me to drop him a line sometime, I said I would and that was that. I don't know what that means exactly, him telling me to email him sometime. Would that mean he doesn't completely hate me?..lol

Edited 6/4/2005 2:07 pm ET ET by dream_angel2005




Edited 6/4/2005 2:08 pm ET ET by dream_angel2005
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 1:56pm

Hi!


Maybe he's uncertain of how you're feeling about him? He asked you out again, so it seems to me he's interested...


Question is: are you interested in him? And if you are... firm up that second date!



Kerry


If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting... -- Les Brown




Edited 6/4/2005 2:05 pm ET ET by cl-bklynchik
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 1:59pm
Yes, it sounds like he is unsure about how you are feeling about things. If you are interested, I would let him know soon...
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 2:04pm
No, he didn't ask me out again. I put that in wrong in my message. I meant that he asked me out to begin with so he was probably expecting to pay for lunch. The confusing part for me is him telling me to drop him a line sometime. Why would he want to hear from me again if things didn't go so well? It doesn't make sense to me.


Edited 6/4/2005 2:05 pm ET ET by dream_angel2005
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 2:12pm

In my mind, it coul be a few things. First, it could be he wants to know that you're interested even though you were shy. Second, it could be a line because he didn't know how to end it.


If you want to see him again, then I would email/call and let him know you're still interested.


Were you quiet because you didn't like him so much? Or was it just a case of getting the shy bug?

Kerry


If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting... -- Les Brown

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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 2:14pm
It was definitely the shy bug. I did like him. I found him to be a nice guy the whole time.
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 6:29pm

If I said to you "drop me a line sometime" that would mean that I can't figure out if you like me so I'm not going to bother pursuing anything.

If I were you I'd send a brief email thanking him, telling you had a nice time and you'd like to go out again. Then let it lay. If he's interested he'll pick up the initiative.

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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 9:43pm

Hi Dream Angel,

That is the problem with either emailing, IMing, or talking on the phone too much before a first meet, it can make it so that you have all the preliminary questions already answered and it makes it hard to find things to talk about. That's why I keep those three things to a minimum before the first meet.

Besides, it doesn't matter how much you converse in those three areas beforehand, it will only be the face to face meet that will tell you if there really is any "REAL LIFE" attraction or chemistry between the two of you. Up until that point, it's just fantasy.

You said, "...He told me to drop him a line sometime..." Well when I first heard that it sounded to me as if he was tryig to be nice about ending the meet but didn't really want to see you again. But then given that you were having a hard time thinking of stuff to say and being somewhat shy as you said, then he could have been unsure how you felt about him also and wasn't sure quite how to end it.

I think I would do as LG said and email him thanking him and letting him know that you would be interested in seeing him again and see if he responds. But if he doesn't, don't dwell on it and move on. There are other fish for sure! You just can't let these meets get to you personally. That's all they are is meets, not dates. I have a first meet tomorrow afternoon, so I think I'm also giving myself a pep talk after having been out of OLD since January as I was seeing someone exclusively since then (which didn't work out). ;)

But good luck to you Dream Angel with your searching.

Sunshine