Back Online....Incessant Emailing ???

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Back Online....Incessant Emailing ???
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Sat, 02-11-2006 - 1:20pm
Hi all,
Well, I had *some* success with OLD - I started online exactly ONE YEAR AGO! Happy Anniversary to me. Met someone in April and we dated exclusively for 8 months. He was quite a bit older than me, and we recently parted ways.
SO, I'm back online.
I have not met anyone yet for coffee dates, but have been emailing a few people. The thing is, as I remember, sometimes these emails are a complete waste of time if, once people meet, the chemistry is not there. But one person is out of town, another is real busy the next week or so, etc...
SO, should I just shelve further emails completely or just send one liners? I am interested in meeting these three people, but I just don't want to waste any more time.
Also, has it been your experience that the ones who drag on emailing are new to the OLD scene? Or just want an email buddy? or what?
OR, MAYBE THEY ARE PUTTING OFF MEETING UNTIL AFTER V-DAY to not have any pressure about that!?! WOW, that just occurred to me.
Signed,
Tired of Typing
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Registered: 02-11-2006
Sat, 02-11-2006 - 2:13pm

I agree. There are alot of matches that become pen pals instead of dates. Eharmony seems to be the worst with this because it takes so log to actually connect that the connectin gets lost--I am at fault with this as well as my matches. After a certain point and if i like the guy I will say that I signed up for internet dating to find a relationship not a friend. I usually say somthing to this effect during the first couple correspondeces just so I knw that my match is looking for a relation too and nither of our time is wasted.

Good Luck!

Jennifer

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 02-11-2006 - 2:56pm

Welcome back :)

Yup, lots of emailing CAN be a waste of time, but you just kind of play it by ear. Sometimes a couple more emails can let you know the person is not worth meeting. So would you rather "waste time" emailing or "waste time" meeting someone incompatible?

Anyway if it seems to be dragging on, just bring it up! Some guys are clueless, or overly cautious, and need a little prompting. In my own experience one guy said he had put off asking to meet because he didn't want to seem like he was trying to rush it. I think the simplest thing is just to ask "would you like to meet in person?" that puts the ball in his court.