Back in the saddle-wish I'd stayed off

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Back in the saddle-wish I'd stayed off
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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 2:41pm

Sigh... OK, after 8 months on a semi-hiatus, I went on an OLD last night and I had to delurk to share. I think it will be therapeudic because this made me remember why I hate OLD. OK, so this guy on Match winked, I winked back. He sent an email, I responded. He seemed nice enough - intelligent, OK sense of humor... overall OK.

We move to the phone. Phone convos are not great - not much to talk about. But everyone says, bad phone convos don't necessarily mean bad in person, but... So Labor Day weekend, I was in Okla for a game, my friends took me out for my birthday Sunday and on Monday, I had to catch up. I'd mentioned "I might try to call on Sunday" but I didn't because I was busy. So he calls Tuesday which was my actual b-day and I was in the car and didn't feel like talking to him (the doubt had started). So he leaves an awkward message about how the phone convos haven't been great but that he thinks there can be chemistry in person even if there isn't on the phone (hmm, has he been reading the board??). I call the next day and get VM and say you're right, let's try to meet. He calls Thursday and we set up a coffee meet on Sunday - place TBD. He calls back half an hour later and says, "I get the feeling that you're not really into this so if you'd like to back out, that's OK." Yadda, yadda. I'm like, "Huh? OOOOO-K" but tell him that I said I'd meet him so I'll meet him. He then says, "OK, great. I got the answer I wanted so I'll call you tomorrow with the place." Again, I'm like, huh?? the answer he wanted? But whatever. He doesn't call back Friday but instead calls back Saturday during my football game! AAACK (he knows I am an OU fan). And he still says, "there's a Starbucks here but I don't have the address so I'll call back with the address. By this time, I REALLY don't want to meet but he calls back with the address and we met.

OK, I walk into the Starbucks to find a guy who is at least 2 inches shorter than I am and I am wearing sandals. That's another thing - he's wearing sandals. I'm not a big fan of guys' sandals, but I can deal. But the icky thing - his toenails are really long! Blech!! It was like a car wreck - you don't want to stare, but you can't help it. I was so grossed out. He was also balding, paunchy and had wierd lips. Conversation was OK but superficial. Absolutely no chemistry. I'd already given myself the "I am meeting friends at 8 for dinner so..." when he'd called to try to push back to 7:30 because he wasn't done with his laundry. So at 7:55, I mention that I have to leave. He says OK and we do. He gushes about what a great time he had and how he would like to do it again. After a very awkward arm pat and a half-hearted "ummm, OK???" from me, I get in my car and get the heck out. He emails me this morning again saying how great a time he had and how he wants to do it again really soon.

So I guess it comes down to the uncomfortable email "Thanks but on thinking about it, I just don't think we are a match." Buh-bye and block. Better than a phone call, right?

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Registered: 01-10-2005
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 6:54am

Hi Vex..I'm also glad to see you post again. Your posts make good reading!

Sorry this was such a bummer. This is the type of thing that keeps me from putting a toe back in the OLD pool. Of course I need some time to regroup.

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