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Bad Bad Development on my story
| Fri, 10-27-2006 - 3:51pm |
W just came to see me. I haven't spoken to him all week and his IM says offline. Today it says "busy" and I told him that I didn't know if I was the exception to the "busy" rule. He then informs me that he has been written up and was told if his numbers aren't better in November they were going to terminate him. HOLY CRAPOLA!! My stomach is sick. He just looked at me and there isn't a single thing I can do for him. This man can't take another hit. This is bad....very bad. I am so sick for him. DANG.....he's a good man and doesn't deserve this.
Thanks for letting me vent.
F

Some perspective on my part. Just ignore me I am just venting....this man has been acting irresponsible for far too long. His bills are a mess...he never opens the envelopes and every week he has something new disconnected.....he loses friendships right and left because he doesn't nurture them.......and obviously he is just barely making it through life with little thought to anything but poor pathetic W. Well you know what?? It's time he take some responsibility for his shoddy work and that what is bosses are doing. Is he a man or a mouse? Does he persevere or does he fail and get fired? It's all up to him and I can't for another second take on his pain...but in all fairness this is how a true friend would react.
Grow up W....good luck to ya!!!
F
p.s. I had made a decision this morning that I had to really focus on me. I have lost 70 in 18 months and since I came back from vacation in July I have gained 25 of those 70 lbs back. THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE!!! New day.....new beginning.
Thanks again for letting me rant on the board everyone!!!! I am going to be just fine...I just can't say the same thing about my beloved friend.
Good for you for making that decision. You can't help him. He *could* make the choice to help himself, but he's not. And you can't save him from his poor choices. It's incredibly hard to watch someone self-destruct, but sometimes you just have to detach and let them make their own mistakes. People sometimes have to reach rock-bottom in order to make changes in their life.
Sheri
Hello Fluffy,
I am sorry to read all this. I just felt like sending you a smile and positive energy.... I had a bad story with a "W" myself... Maybe they are cursed or something! Think about anything else this weekend
Take care
W\J
I agree Sheri!! I will be here if he wants to talk like any friend would do but I have to let him succeed or fail on his own. Shame a beautiful healthy man can come to this. I am the opposite and I think this really is quite telling. I struggle every single day to be able to work as hard as I can. At our job we have a grading scale and there are top, middle and bottom people. The past 3 months (since it's inception) I have been in the Top 5 being the Top Performer for the month of September which I am quite proud of myself. He on the other hand has been at the bottom of all those same 3 months. It was awkward to share my glorious news with him and he said a quick congratulations and moved on from that conversation. Unlike my youngen here who made a fuss and continues to make a fuss when we pass each other. He said he was proud of me and that is the type of man I need to find. One who supports me in all aspects of my life.......it's all so telling and man I thought I learned all the lessons I had to learn. HHUUMMPPFF....guess not.
Thanks Sheri!!
I am sure I will be back the day he gets fired.....cuz it's gonna hurt.
F
Thanks for the support. I greatly appreciate it!!!
F
And the weekend will be fine. I did promise him that I would call but he was indifferent to that and I said is it okay that I call and he said "sure". I am my own worst enemy. I just feel like he needs a friend right now.
Fluffy, I've watched a man I love self-destruct and it isn't pretty. I understand your anger and your pain. I also understand that knowledge that you are much stronger than they are. I agree with Sheri, there isn't much you can do. My ex is still self-destructing 2 years after we've broken up. I tried to help, but realized that wasn't healthy. He still calls, wants my support and love.
What the heck do you guys do for a living? It sounds mighty stressful, from your description. Congrats on the top rating! You are right, you SHOULD be proud and you need someone who supports you on that!
Chick
Thank you Chick. What W and I are Fraud Investigators for a large national Bank. His job consists of taking phone calls from customers who are downright rude and harmful to ones mental and emotional health. This has taken a toll on him. One can't blame his entire attitude issue with this function because he hasn't always done this. They placed him in this position and he didn't have a choice. They like to do that. The pressure we feel is not only the newest incentive program which I can honestly say is quite beneficial financially if you do score high (the highest level gets 25% of our salary for that month and if you're very good you can score thise every month) but we also deal with loss budgets that we cannot exceed each month. The pressure to perform is immense. My physical health has suffered greatly pushing myself so hard. He isn't alone on this and they have made it real clear that if you don't get past the mid point 3 months in a rolling year period termination is guaranteed. We also compete with each other each month and that has turned ugly. I can't even explain to you how this has changed a real good job. But we all need our jobs including W and if he has it in him to take 20-30 more calls each day (which is what he is short each day) he can pull this off. Will he???? I sure hope so.
Thanks again for the support. I am better tonight and know that he controls his fate and it's all on him. I remind myself that if he doesn't man-up he owns it. I can see this friendship falling apart real quick over the next couple of weeks. In a strange sense of fate this may be just what he needs to wake him up.
F
Why are you wasting your time getting all over-emotional, worrying and stressing about the life and struggles of some man who based on what you wrote about him so far hadrly notices that you exist?