bad kisser: dealbreaker?

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Registered: 02-15-2004
bad kisser: dealbreaker?
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Sun, 10-02-2005 - 12:21pm

OK, I have a dilemma. Has this ever happened to you? I met someone through an online dating website about a month ago. He's attractive, we have interests in common, and we have fun hanging out together. He really does seem to be a reliable, trustworthy person as well, and he has been honest and upfront with me about what he is looking for. He is looking for a monogamous relationship, like I am. I like him and enjoy his company, and I am attracted to him, but I don't feel "in love". I did think there was the potential for love, at least until recently. This past week, we kissed for the first time. It didn't do anything for me! He just doesn't kiss in a way that I like - at all! We met again later that week, and I decided to give it another try. We kissed again, but it was the same thing. I actually said to him: we have different kissing styles. I even gave him a few pointers about how to kiss "my way". He just didn't get it.

Let me just explain that right from the first SECOND, there was WAY too much TONGUE. There were other major problems with the kiss too. I'm convinced that some people have a more sensual nature than others, and those who don't may just not be capable of picking up on the nuances involved in good kissing (and bad kisser probably means bad in bed too).

I'm kinda sad to have to disappoint this guy, and I'm afraid it will come as a total surprise to him when I tell him that we can't see each other anymore because the chemistry isn't there for me. Bummer.

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Registered: 10-08-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 10:13am
To me it's less of a deal-breaker that he's a bad kisser, and more that he ignored your feedback. That doesn't bode well...he'll probably do it again in other issues!

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