Is this a bad sign?

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Is this a bad sign?
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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 1:15pm

Hi everyone,

Sorry if this is a dumb question, but I have only 2 weeks of experience with online dating, and have only ever had 1 boyfriend, so my overall level of experience with guys is quite limited. . .

Anyway, I emailed a guy I was interested in, but after a week had gone by with no response, I assumed he was not interested. 9 days after I emailed him, he replied, said I wrote a great profile and that it was up his alley. He apologized for the delayed reply, saying he was out of town and had been checking his email, but not writing any. I replied to his email, told him I wouldn't be writing emails if I was on vacation either, answered his questions and asked him a couple questions similar in nature to the ones he'd asked me. That was 5 days ago, and he hasn't replied yet. It's a little strange because he logs onto the site several times a day, every day. I really don't mind that it takes a while to get a reply; I guess I'm just so used to email being used for high-paced work-related communication that it makes me wonder if this pace is normal for online dating, or if it means he's not interested, or maybe talking to so many girls he can't keep up, etc.

I'm clueless as to what's normal and what's not, so any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 3:19pm

I wouldn't be holding my breath if I were you, but he may still turn out to be interested. I find it's best to think of each email I send or phone call I have (or even each date I have) as casting a message in a bottle into the ocean ;-). It's not very likely to be returned, so I put it out of my mind and move on. If I hear back, great, if not, oh well!

Sheri

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 5:28pm
Yes, sounds like i wouldnt put too much time, thought OR energy into him ... There are MANY other fish in the sea!
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Registered: 05-12-2005
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 6:11pm
Don't put too much thought into any one interaction. For whatever reason,he doesn't want to take it to the next level.
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 10:40am
Definitely not a great sign but not necessarily bad either.
heather 5-18-10
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 11:43pm
If he's on line a lot and he's interested, he would e-mail back pretty quick. If he's really interested, you'll get many more. Don't feel ignored, feel liberated.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 12:29pm
Thanks so much everyone for your input; I really appreciate it! :)
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Registered: 09-23-2006
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 10:16pm

So what did you end up doing? I'm kind of having the same problem...it's been three days. Geez, why can't they just write back - regardless if they're interested or not, at least tell me so I can move on!

I don't know...I hate this.