Bad Speller

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Registered: 10-11-2004
Bad Speller
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 9:18am
Am I being way too picky here or does this bother anyone else? My friend set me up with a friend of hers who has a profile on an internet dating site. We talked for the first time the other night and the conversation went pretty well and we'll probably get together next week. He doesn't know that we've looked at his profile, but one thing that stands out is his spelling - it is so bad. I'm someone who has always been a good speller, and when I saw his profile, I just cringed. I haven't even met him yet and I know I'm probably being way too judgemental, but I just wondering if this was a pet peeve for anyone else?
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Registered: 01-05-2004
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 9:31am

Yes, yes, yes! lol About 90% of the profiles I have seen written by men have been bad with spelling. I think it's something genetic with men. lol Very few of them can spell! Of course I have seen one that spelled words just fine but chopped everything up with periods, hyphens, etc. and made it very hard to read. I think women are more inclined to be better in English than men and men are more inclined to be better in math. I know that the opposite can happen but it isn't very often. :)

Try not to be hard on the fella. :)

Jennifer




Edited 8/30/2006 9:33 am ET by jh12
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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 10:16am
It bugs the crap out of me!
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 07-21-2006
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 11:52pm
For us "good spellers" it generally is a pet peeve or is it just feeling superior? Some people know they can't spell and apologize for their short-coming ahead of time. This I find acceptable since there doesn't seem to be a spell check on the OLD sites. Writing without spell check for some is like doing math without a calculator for us math challenged people. If they don't even realize that they have completely mis-spelled quite a few words, well....that is a bad omen.
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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:52am

Just how bad was it?

I'm willing to forgive an occasional typo, but if the guy clearly doesn't care how he presents himself, it makes me wonder if that attitude spills over into other areas of his life. On the other hand, I don't think I'd do well with someone who nitpicks over every detail so an occasional awkward sentence or misspelling might not be an entirely bad thing.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:50am
Sorry, no excuse!
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 04-15-2004
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 6:34pm
Have to agree that typos may reflect on what he's like in other ways. Is he as sloppy with keeping himself clean, or the kitchen etc. Still, I think you should give him a chance!
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Registered: 07-21-2006
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 8:49pm
You can't assume everyone knows about copying into word and spell checking there. They don't teach enough word processing in school. Wouldn't it be easier if someone wrote a spell check into the OLD program to begin with?
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Registered: 11-08-2003
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 7:42am
I agree that spelling doesn't come easily to everyone, but if the man can't spell and isn't computer literate enough to know he can cut and paste, I see that as two strikes rather than one. On the other hand, I have a friend that is intelligent and analytical but uneducated and his spelling and grammar are quite weak. There isn't always a link but more often than not. If a friend has set you up and she knows him, then there is a better chance that he is a decent guy and has qualities to offset the spelling so maybe give him a chance.
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Registered: 09-06-2005
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 3:02pm

To me, the spelling thing isn't a reflection of intelligence, it's pure laziness. This applies to not only online profiles but e-mail also. Like Vexer said, in this day and age, there is no excuse for not (a) putting it into Word or Outlook for spell checking or (b) looking it up on Dictionary.com. If someone is unable to do either one of those things, then they obviously don't care what kind of impression they are creating- which makes me immediately write them off. That may sound lame, but to me, it's an overall issue of how you present yourself. It would be really hard for me to get over that first impression of someone if it wasn't a typo or 2, but a lot of misspellings. So- if you aren't interested in going out with this guy, I can understand it completely- I don't think you are being too judgmental.

Erica

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: ivdaisy4
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 3:08pm

Sure spell check in OLD sites would be great, but in this day and age, there is no excuse for not being somewhat computer literate if you are under the age of 65.

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