Baggage as long as you travel light

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Baggage as long as you travel light
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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 12:23pm

Hello....

OK, yesterday I declined meeting a man with 3 kids (two of which are grown) and an ex wife of 20+ years whom he was separated from for 3 years (divorce final any day now he said) and I thought neah, that’s too much for me at least where I’m at in my life right now.

This inspired the post – in your mind – what is too much baggage or situations where you thought, nope, just can’t go there! I don’t consider kids baggage but the fact that he had a family life (full family life, memories and a nasty divorce, well...and I do want a kid one day so why would he want more – hence I’ll take the pass card)....

Bring on your baggage stories ;-)

Cheers,
The Small Peanut AKA SP

 
 

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 8:55am

I don't know if this applies to baggage but when I first started OLD I specifically explained I didn't have kids nor did I want kids. I received an email from someone who had obviously read my profile with a sentence that went like this.

"You are going to absolutely love my kids. My boy is 8 and my girl is six and I have full custody of both of them. We are a great family to be around. "

I guess this man thought that since I didn't want to physically have children, that I would be thrilled that he already had 2 of them at his house already.

Run Forest run.

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 10:08am
I'm also 45, no kids, never married, was engaged to and dated the wrong guy for many years, have dated a few since that break-up (over 6 yrs. ago now). I'm college educated and work full-time in an office and moonlight at W-Mart. I bought my own home a couple years ago and am basically financially stable, although I do have a few bills + the house payment. I am not real overweight but continue to try to lose another 10-15 pounds. I don't smoke and don't hang at the bars. I've always "thought" that I was a real catch since I tend to believe that a woman with kids at home might give a guy pause for wanting to get into a relationship with. I've had several blind dates; 2 really BAD ones, and one just last weekend that was just so-so. I've been doing the online dating since the first of May with little real success. Here we are going into the holidays AGAIN, and I'm still alone. The holidays are not a good time of the year for me. Working at the store doesn't do much to help in that attitude either. Guess I'm sort of depressed today. :(
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Registered: 10-11-2005
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 10:23am
Hang in there, Mitzy! I work at HOME.......can't change that for a couple of years. I don't meet too many eligible batchelors here, ya know? Regarding the holidays coming and alone AGAIN....I HEAR YA'!
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