being friends with the stingy guy?
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being friends with the stingy guy?
| Thu, 12-15-2005 - 1:43am |
I met up with the "Stingy guy" (lol) on Sunday and haven't heard from him since which is perfectly fine with me. At the end of our last meeting, he said "keep in touch". I don't like him romantically but I think we could be good friends... even like an older brother. Should I email him and tell him? I don't really want to call him about this... but does email sound too coward? Obviously he's not into me romantically either... but then I can never tell if a guy is interested or just being friendly. In the first meeting, he tried to touch my arm briefly and in a friendly way and I didn't react. In the 2nd meeting he said I could come along with him when he goes fishing with his friends and I didn't say anything.
What do you think girls?

The thing is that you are going to go on lots of dates and the vast majority won't lead to a romantic relationship.
Well, just to play devil's advocate...one of my best guy friends became my friend in exactly this way. We went out twice and while we had a LOT of fun both times, after the 2nd date, I just had this sense he wasn't going to call me again, and I was right. But I really liked him as a person (we just got along really well) so I emailed him and said, look, I know it's kind of awkward since we met on Matchmaker , but I really enjoyed your company and would love to get together again as friends. He emailed right back and said, oh, I'm so glad you said that, I would really enjoy that. Now, there was a small part of me that hoped it would develop into "more"...that never happened but we had a blast hanging out together. A while later, he met the woman who is now his wife, by which time I'd accepted it wasn't ever going to beyond friends, and I became friends with her too...luckily she was cool with the whole thing (no reason she shouldn't have been but not every woman would have been). I even went to their wedding!
So it *can* work. I wouldn't say it's the rule but it can happen.
Sheri
I went on a date and had several phone calls with a guy once that I was not attracted to, but thought he was a great guy.
I used to think that it was fine for people who dated to be friends. But after hearing a lot of opinions and such, my opinions have changed. It's one thing if both parties feel the same way. But if we're on dating sites, are we looking for dates or for friends? I think the former. So my answer is to not bother.
Is it possible that you just want to be his friend so you're not the "bad" guy?