Being Intimate with Two People

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Being Intimate with Two People
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Sun, 03-26-2006 - 6:45am

I'm just curious - has anyone ever been able to do this? It is extremely difficult, and almost impossible for me, although when faced with the situation, I inevitably had to end it with one of them pretty immediately.

I've seen where guys have been able to do this, but are women programmed differently or is this actually possible?

In fact, my intimate relationship went sour the moment he said that he wants to be exclusive sexually but not exclusive as far as dating.

I mean, ok, that was a given as we had never discussed it per se. BUT, DON'T SHOVE IT DOWN MY THROAT and throw it in my face!!! Yes, I was dating others as well, but I didn't want to actually verbalize it nor hear it.

In retrospect it was a good thing to discuss, but WHY did it completely TURN ME OFF? Now I can't be intimate with him anymore because I can only picture him going on other dates - and not behind my back.

Cindy G.

C-G

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 8:08am

Honestly, I think it's safer to be sexually exclusive with just one person. Maybe it turned you off because that's not what you wanted?


Sex is a dangerous thing nowadays. You sleep with one person, you sleep with all their past partners and the partners' past partners and so on... Although sexual exclusivity doesn't eliminate the possibility of contracting an STD, it at least lets you know who you're dealing with and to just have to deal with their sexual history rather than adding another person to that mix.


Just my 2 cents...

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 8:31am
I can't be intimate with two people nor would I accept a guy doing that to me.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 8:52am

Yes, women are programmed differently.

heather 5-18-10