Being more aggressive/go getter
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| Sun, 01-16-2005 - 10:43pm |
I wonder if being more aggressive/go getter will get me better results on match. Some of the men who contact me send their numbers with their first message after I've winked back/e-mailed back. I never call them though but exchange at least one e-mail/IM before sending my number to see if they want to call me. Calling first is not my preference. Since I've been active for 3 weeks on match I expected to have arraigned a first meeting with at least 4 to 6 men, but not. Two have been evasive and they're off my book, 1 is a prospect for next week. The rest IM when I'm offline or keep on e-mailing. I'm quite frustrated. In late Dec. 2004 I put up an add on CL and got to meet 5 guys in one week, none of them paned out though. In any case I'm calling two guuys tomorrow, morning and afternoon.
Should I call them as soon as they send their numbers to see if that way the first meeting isn't so evasive? I wonder what others think.

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I don't put much value in emailing back and forth for any length of time. If the profile and pictures seems decent I like to get to the phone and the meet. Most of the time it won't go farther than that -- so getting to the meeting and not wasting time is my goal.
A really decent portion of online contacts tend to disappear at the mention of talking or meeting -- so what you're experiencing doesn't seem abnormal.
Doesn't really matter to me who calls first. I rarely would send my number unless asked.
How long does it take you to determine if they're not an axe murderer/stalker/nuisance or married?
Just wondering.
Lisa
That is exactly why I don't call guys first: the last thing I want is to catch them at a bad time. The first phone call is stressful enough without that happening!
I give them my cell phone number and give them one or two good times to call so that I'm relaxed and ready.
Sheri
Yes, the initial emails can be revealing, but not nearly as much as the initial meeting. The way I usually handle it if I get a phone number in the email (like I did today) is to email back with a couple more details or questions, then ask when is a good time to call. That gives them a chance to tell you what's good and you gain a little extra information.
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