Being single

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Being single
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Sat, 05-07-2005 - 11:45am

Being single is not a state-of-waiting to be in a relationship. It's not a phase to endure until you find "THE ONE".

 

 

 

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Registered: 10-17-2004
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 12:30pm

So true....and it's easy to forget these things when you want a relationship. The grass is always greener. I know that some of my friends are jealous of my single lifestyle!

Thanks for posting that!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 2:05pm

Great list and a good reminder of the benefits of being single...although it seems to me that a lot of those only apply if you're single and also independently wealthy, with a metabolism that allows you to eat anything you want and not gain weight ;-). For example, while I'd love to whenever I like for as long as I like, my budget and my jobs don't allow me to do so ;-). And I can't afford to decorate my home to suit my tastes...that would use up all my savings and put me in debt ;-).

And if I'm to have any hope of keeping my weight stable, let alone *losing* weight, you better believe there are things I enjoy that I've cut back on or given up ;-)!

Sheri

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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 2:17pm

<<...it seems to me that a lot of those only apply if you're single and also independently wealthy, with a metabolism that allows you to eat anything you want and not gain weight>>


Nope. Not true. ;)


I have always been poor and I've done everything on that list . I haven't necessarily been able to do everything exactly

 

 

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 3:30pm

You're absolutely right that you don't have to take another person into account in making decisions when you're single, and I've also done most if not all of the things on the list...I was just kind of poking fun at the "you can do whatever, whenever" line of thought, without regard to budget or other obligations a single person might have. And yes, it's all about making choices and setting priorities...but the list makes it sound like all single people are (or should be) jetting off at the drop of a hat and not having to be *responsible* in any way. Just because you're not part of a couple doesn't mean you don't have other obligations and responsibilities is my point, I guess.

I actually started my business when I was married, because there would have been no way I could have left my job and supported myself in the early days if that hadn't been the case (things got very tight when we divorced two years later because I didn't want to go back to being a lawyer then, so I ended up waiting tables for a few years). And buying my first house when I was married was much easier than buying the one I'm in now, because we had two incomes to rely on, not just one. I'm not disputing that there are MANY benefits to being single, but being part of a couple can also give you a different kind of freedom and choices.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 4:30pm

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Funny you should say that, because I recall all those profiles from apparently constant and spontaneous travellers!

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Registered: 07-24-2004
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 4:39pm

All good, but in my experience, if you're in the right relationship, you could still do all of these things, too!

"You can decorate your home to suit your taste.
You can eat whatever you like and want.
You can be more career focused. You can pursue a dream; take that promotion; relocate; take on more hours.
You can have bad habits...smoke; eat crackers in bed; leave the dirty dishes in the sink.
You don't have to ever give up or cut back on something you enjoy
You can be naughty. You can go to strip club; get tipsy; go on a shopping spree; eat garlic....and not feel guilty
You can go back to school; take up a new hobby
You can get a tattoo; piercing; plastic surgery; new haircut or colour...without the need to check with anyone"

Tracy

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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 5:09pm

I was attempting to show all singles who are unhappy about being single why this is a great time to take advantage of being single instead of just waiting around for someone in order to "start life".

 

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2004
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 5:29pm
It was a good thread!!
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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 5:34pm

Thanks! I'm happy if you found it helpful.

 

 

 

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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: cl_jhoover21
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 6:55pm
I got great tickets to Chris Rock and Duran Duran -- because I only had to buy 1!

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