The Benefits of an Online Relationship

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The Benefits of an Online Relationship
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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 12:23am
The Benefits of an Online Relationship!

compiled by Online Love Editors

Being in an online love relationship is a difficult, but very rewarding experience. Sometimes, as in many difficult experiences, negative thoughts can creep into your mind. "I believe that the best part of an online love is that the two people get to bond mentally and spiritually long before they ever make a physical bond. They get to know one another's heart and soul, and that is the most important part of any relationship." -Mary Sammons

1. "Finally meeting them is the best... in person I mean." -Sandy

2. "You both get to have your own space. You're not smothered, and you don't get tired of each other." -Charlene

3. "We know a lot about each other just from talking, but there are still many things that we don't know and that adds a type of mystery to the relationship." -SAK

4. "It lets me be who I want to be in the most open and honest way that I can." -allison

5. "You can learn all about that person, and it's easier to share feelings with each other that you probably wouldn't if you met them somewhere." -rachel

6. "Knowing that person more so than you would if you meet them somewhere else." -Anna

7. "It's two things. The first is that because of the medium you (well we at least) are dependent on e-mails and certainly talk about a great many more things than we might have had we met at a bar or something. Secondly, that you can spend time with your beloved without having to dust or vacuum the place." -Spiffy

8. "One of best things I have found out about in an online relationship is communication skills. You really learn how to express yourself fully with words. And when you do get to spend time together it makes it more special since you don't need to spend time finding out favorite colors, songs, movies etc." -Melissa Vladar

9. "You get to 'know' the person without any pressures of sex or intimacy. So once you are together you will know what to do and it will seem as though you have been together forever. Online means no complications if you do not want them." -Adena

10. "The best thing about being in an online relationship is knowing that you are loved for who you are, not what you look like." -S. Mazingo

11. "The fact that even if you get into a disagreement, both of you don't end up fighting and hurting each other physically. Words are enough to end a disagreement." -Yewande F.

12. "The best thing about being in an online relationship is the opportunity to know a person's heart, soul and character without the distraction of their physical persona. True beauty of spirit can make the most plain person into an intoxicatingly beautiful love." -Debra Williams

13. "Learning about your lover much more deeply than if they were right next door. Having the chance to talk about what matters, their interests, instead of doing the things you'd do if he/she were right there." -Manny

14. "The best thing about being in a LDR/online relationship is the communication and plans that both of you talk and make. You develop either great talking or listening skills." -Sandy

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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 9:13am
Great post Jen! I agree totally!!! I cannot wait for Mark to get here and all my feelings are confirmed!! WOO HOO

Gail

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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 11:09am
I find most of this validating to my view - all the caveats about how there is always a loop hole, a no strings attached approach - a desire not to have the responsibility and commitment that comes only from an inperson romantic relationship - the desire to prioritize keeping the mystery over really knowing the person romantically and deeply which in my view can happen only through consistent in person relating. I think on line "relationships" that go on more than a week or so without specific plans to meet are great for those who sort of want to get their feet wet or have some harmless flirtation -
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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 11:21am
Yeh, and that is why that "harmless flirtation" works out about 8 out of 10 times, right? (smiles) To each their own.

G

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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 1:16pm
On line - I doubt that that statistic has any basis in reality - especially if you're talking about marriage (there haven't been enough long term marriages resulting from on line to even do a study like that anyway.

Am keeping my fingers crossed for you and Mark!!

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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 2:44pm
So, I guess Jen just pulled all those names out of her ***? lol I happen to know several couples that have had a successful relationships/marriages and met on line. I am not saying that have been married for 10 years or longer, but I know of several long term committements and/or marriages that have came from meeting on line. I know 8 out 0f 10 may be far fetched, but I was just using some numbers I gathered from my research done on the net. If you dont agree, fine. I would say you obviously dont, since you didnt end up with someone you met on line anyways. SO, no...it didnt work for you, but it might work for others. JMHO! :)

Gail

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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 5:40pm
Oh I know of marriages where the couple met on an online dating service - it did not work out for me because I never would try that approach - as in waiting more than a week or so to meet in person - I just dispute the 80 percent statistic, that's all.