Best experience?

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Best experience?
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Wed, 03-30-2005 - 9:13pm
I'm always hearing about the bad OLD experiences... Anyone care to share their good ones? Tell me the best of your best, please! :)

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 9:27am
unfortunately my BEST experience was also my WORST. He was the second guy I met online and we hit it off immediately. He brought a gift and held my hand on our first date. Talked on the phone several times a day, introduced me to his kids and coworkers. He was very into me. Went to a very swanky gala together, got to dress up. He told me he loved me after just a couple of days and I was truly smitten. He was everything I was looking for. He made plans for us to go on vacations, told me what our house was going to look like, how our kids would play together. I could really imagine us married. Smitten Smitten Smitten!! But, after 4 months he decided to leave a message on my answering machine saying he loved me BUT he didn't have the time or energy for a serious relationship. That was it. I never heard from him again.
But on a positive note: I have enjoyed meeting the guys I've gone out with, most of it has been a great ego boost and it's eased me back into dating.
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Registered: 06-06-2003
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 9:50am

O-M-G!!!!!!

I think we dated the same guy!!

He didn't use the L-word until three months in, but the rest is just IT! The kids (his), the house, vacations, etc.

He did come to tell me he didn't have the time or energy, in person, though. At four months. Out of the blue. No warning.

bizarre.

Barb

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 9:56am

My very best experience was the first woman that I met online (funny how most of the "best ofs" are early on).

She was in a similar situation - divorced with one child - and showed me how important it was to work through the situations with the ex. She was one of the few that didn't seem to be dating because her ex was engaged, looking for a quick fix, etc.

I left the meeting and really changed my approach in how I dealt with my ex -- and it helped tremendously to get my kids on track with the right school, etc.

The meeting was also an eye-opener because she was a real looker who I figured would never have time to meet up again with me. Imagine my surprise when she emailed two weeks later wondering why she hadn't hear from me and asking when we were going to dinner.

For some odd reason we never made the dinner but I'm glad that I got a positive perspective from someone who had her life together.

The remaining meets and dates have largely been a blur of activity.

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 1:37pm

Hmmm...

Well, I met a gal through OLD that I was with for nearly two years. We got along quite well and I figured we were headed towards marriage, eventually. Unfortunately, things didn't work out, but I had a great time while it lasted and had a chance to love someone, so even without the permanent LTR I count that as a definite positive.

Presently I'm dating a simply splendid woman that I met via OLD! My gf is caring, we have very real (and hot!) chemistry, we get along emotionally, she's smart and funny, and she loves my dog as much as I do. She seems quite normal (so far!) and despite only knowing each other for a relatively short time, it feels like we've known each other for a LONG time.

So that's definitely a positive! ;)

OLD has let me meet lots of interesting women; I've had plenty of good dates. It also brought me, eventually, to this board, where I have heard and seen different ideas and even (gasp) changed my mind and operating practices on some things. So my own personal growth, through OLD (and here!), is a positive!

And I wound up making one friend that I originally met via OLD, and wound up growing immensely in my spiritual life, so that's DEFINITELY a positive! :)

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Mon, 04-04-2005 - 9:40pm
Ms. Hoover21 has expressed my sentiments quite accurately. I couldn't have gotten the self-confidence to get into dating and (excuse my bluntness) man-hunting without some synthetic boost, namely OLD. My best experiences so far have been meeting Mr. Right (my challenge is how to meet him AGAIN and PERSUADE him that I am Ms. Right For Him) and meeting my sweet Un-Boyfriend that I am seeing now.
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Mon, 04-04-2005 - 10:20pm

For me

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Registered: 08-15-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 6:05am

success!

I am engaged :)

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 9:07am

I don't know your story, but congratulations!

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 10:00am

Congratulations.


We don't hear from you too much anymore but I do remember when you used to post here pretty regularly.


 

 

 

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:29am
I'm late answering this, but I met my boyfriend of almost 5 months online, on Craig's List, no less.

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