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Best experience?
| Wed, 03-30-2005 - 9:13pm |
I'm always hearing about the bad OLD experiences... Anyone care to share their good ones? Tell me the best of your best, please! :)
| Wed, 03-30-2005 - 9:13pm |
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YOU ARE SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO RIGHT! I got married when I was in my 20's. Needless to say, it didn't last. Looking back, I am such a different person now. And it's not that I made major life overhauls, I just learned how to embrace me whereas back then, I was unsure of me.
I definitely think people should wait until around 30 to get married too.
I would make it a law!
No marriages until 30 :)
SP,
I agree that people should wait until they are at least 30 to get married! The ones who get married at such an early age have no idea of the changes they will go through over the years and how their idea of the right partner will change.
I think another problem is that not everybody embraces change and accepts it well. While some people see change as a positive growth in their life, their partner may be threatened by it if they have insecurities. This exact thing happened with my marriage and I got married at 19 - yes WAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY too young!!!!!! I grew past him and he couldn't and didn't want to keep up - buh bye.....There was more to it than that though...
Actually, of our friends who got married around the same time that we did, after 27 years now, only one couple is still together and they are not really that happy I feel. Most are remarried and seem somewhat happier than they were with the first marriage, but not all are happy even in their second marriages. Makes me wonder if I ever WANT to get married again!
But I do agree that the people who wait until 30 or later probably have better odds at not getting divorced. It makes sense because they are more secure with themselves, know what they want in a partner, more established in their careers, and usually better off financially, so combining their lives with a partner would seem easier with having most of the other things under control.
A negative that I can see though about getting married at 30 or older is that life patterns have been established and if they are a selfish person, they might not be willing to compromise and do what is needed to make a partnership with another person work. Yet this could happen with a selfish younger person who gets married also. JMHO.
Sunshine
I haven't read every post in this thread, but from what I have read, apparently my experiences have been unusually good....
I met a guy through sparkmatch (which was pretty lame, but hey, it worked) and we dated for 3 years! We talked about getting engaged/married all the time, but I ended up breaking things off because I just was not ready for those steps at the time (I was 19-21 when we dated).
Last September I met a man on yahoo! and that was also really nice. We dated for 7 months and he treated me like a queen. I ended that relationship recently because I felt like we were really just too different (we don't have the same religion and apparently, we don't have a lot of common goals, which I believe are very important foundations to a successful relationship).
But anyway, so far I'm really happy with OLD, especially since I feel like I am usually passed up for thinner or louder girls when I go out to the bars. Don't worry, there are good, normal people online, you've just got to look!
I met this girl on my hobby site, not a dating site.
She drives 338 miles, on a first date, to my house, after
talking with each other about 3 weeks.
That, is the definition of courage.
She showed up, looking like an alabama supergoddess,
with the accent that any body in their right mind
would kill or die for.
I still can't believe it.
We hit it off on everything, except one thing: her twin sister
was pounding on her every day to marry somebody that make over
$200k per year.
I did come withen a gnat's a$$ of marrying her.
Of course, the problem now is: that's the new standard.
There is nobody I have met or talked to chatted to that is
even 1/100000 of that.
I'm not sure what to do or think.
>>I'm not sure what to do or think.
uh, what was that hobby site again...
I think you know this, I'm the guy your helping with his yahoo.
So, I'm not gonna reply publically what the hobby site was, but,
I'll reply to you privately.
I can say, however, my whole view on what I want, and what is
available, was changed meeting her.
<available, was changed meeting her.>>
I am burning with curiosity -- what did the hot-but-greedy-chick experience teach you? Share if you can.
I had my heart broken by an impossibly good looking man only once. Now I stay away from them.
Thanks. That perspective made me think about some things.
But I dont wanna dwell on what is gone.
What I learned this year: canada girls have the same personality
and equally good accent as girls from mississippi or alabama.
This is difficult for people to understand that dont rate
personality, manners, accent to be 100 times as important as looks.
Or, what is percieved as looks.
As far as what she taught me: you dont need to look like val kilmer
to go out with a chic that looks 100 X better than claire forlani.
I would agree with you totally and I'll incorporate that phrase
"impossibly good looking"
So, what do i do now, when a chubby chic with 2 kids blows me off????
you see my point although I did not elaborate it.
"what do i do, what do i think" <-- condor
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