Better to ghost or give someone closure?
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| Wed, 08-16-2006 - 1:23pm |
I have been on YP for one month and am new to OLD. I have corresponded 4 round trips with one man whose last email to me was enthusiastic and still showed a lot of interest in me. It has been over a week since I responded to his last email so I figure he is gone.
My question is this. Once you have started a volley of emails back and forth, is it better to just give someone a quick email saying politely along the lines of "We are not a match" or "I have decided that I am not available to date you right now" rather than just disappear? You don't have to go into specifics, but just acknowledge someone enough to let them know. I feel that ghosting is still rejection but ruder, like you aren't important enough as a human being to deserve some kind of response.
Even though I feel like I was the rejected one in this case, I would like to know how I can be most respectful in the future when I have to do the rejection.

I personally HATE getting those "thanks but no thanks" emails so I don't send them (on a "do unto others" theory). I'd rather infer from his disappearing that he's not interested than be told.
But I know not everyone feels the same way so I think you should do what YOU feel is polite. Just be aware that not everyone on the receiving end will feel the same way.
Sheri
Agreed.