Better to tell it straight
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Better to tell it straight
| Thu, 01-04-2007 - 12:03am |
OK, the guy that was sending me daily text messages? He's back. I guess he was trolling Match.com for me. I went on last night to send a couple emails per the 5 email requirement of the "Find someone in 6 months or get 6 months free" and he saw I was online so he sends me an email. Sigh.......... He says something like "Hey do you have more time to date this year? I see you're online." I just blocked him and didn't answer. I'd told him I was too busy to date (which WAS true) but most of it was he creeped me out with the daily text messages. So I should have just said in the first place that I didn't think we were a match but live and learn.

Luckily he hasn't texted again. Since I blocked him on Match, I haven't heard from him. I don't think he was really freaky or stalker-ish or anything. Just very persistent. I wasn't really into him on initial contact, but kept it up because I didn't really have anything more interesting. The daily texts were much more annoying than scary. Just too much too soon for not having met yet.
Funny thing was, I met a guy friend of mine for a drink the other night. He's been doing Match on and off for a while. He had been communicating with a girl and in the few days before she met, she was sending him several texts a day, very much like this guy did to me. I don't know this guy very well - actually the friend of Small Peanut who moved to Dallas - as we've only met up a couple times. But as he was talking about this, I was saying things like "Wow! That would be so annoying to get all that before you met!" and such. The funny part is that HE liked it! He thought it was great that she was so communicative and excited about meeting him. But the thing was, they met and I guess once they met, she didn't feel that vibe. So he was very disappointed given her excitement and all. I tried to explain to him that in OLD, that all that communication before hand is 1) a bad idea and 2) doesn't mean a darn thing until you meet in person and see if that chemistry translates to real life. I think he was bummed out - he's a OLD newbie while I've been around the block a few times. But it was interesting to see the shoe on the other foot and also to see that there might be someone that actually LIKES all that. Wild.
This isn't an OLD-related story, but what you just said about the guy liking all that calling and texting reminded me of my friend and her boyfriend that just broke up with her before Thanksgiving...when they were dating (and even now that they've broken up, though I don't know why), he was CONSTANTLY calling her.
It sounds like this guy who texted you all the time was either desperate in general