The big day is coming--so nervous!!!
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The big day is coming--so nervous!!!
| Tue, 10-24-2006 - 12:54am |
Hey everyone--
Just joined this board but I thought you ladies had some really great insight so I decided to join y'all. I've been doing the whole online thing on and off for about the past year--gone out on some good dates, had some fun but haven't really clicked with anyone yet. Well I just re-activated one of my memberships about a month or so ago and for some reason decided to search through the whole country instead of just my area. Well, a little over a month ago I started talking to this guy from CA (I live in WI) and well, to make a long story short, I am flying out there this weekend to meet him!! I know it is absolutely crazy but we both are comfortable with it and excited. I am just starting to get super nervous...what if I'm not what he thought I was going to be? I've read some of the posts about weight...I have that concern. I'm not obese but I'm not thin either...I don't know, I'm just all worried that he is going to find 10,000 things wrong with me (though he keeps telling me he is looking forward to it and we'll still have a great time even if we don't click.) I think that is the reason why I decided to go is because we both love adventure and doing crazy stuff. Anyways, sorry to be long-winded. Just wanted to vent a bit. Can't wait for this weekend!!!
Just joined this board but I thought you ladies had some really great insight so I decided to join y'all. I've been doing the whole online thing on and off for about the past year--gone out on some good dates, had some fun but haven't really clicked with anyone yet. Well I just re-activated one of my memberships about a month or so ago and for some reason decided to search through the whole country instead of just my area. Well, a little over a month ago I started talking to this guy from CA (I live in WI) and well, to make a long story short, I am flying out there this weekend to meet him!! I know it is absolutely crazy but we both are comfortable with it and excited. I am just starting to get super nervous...what if I'm not what he thought I was going to be? I've read some of the posts about weight...I have that concern. I'm not obese but I'm not thin either...I don't know, I'm just all worried that he is going to find 10,000 things wrong with me (though he keeps telling me he is looking forward to it and we'll still have a great time even if we don't click.) I think that is the reason why I decided to go is because we both love adventure and doing crazy stuff. Anyways, sorry to be long-winded. Just wanted to vent a bit. Can't wait for this weekend!!!

That's exciting...I hope it goes well and you have a great time!
If he's seen accurate photos of you and you were honest in your profile about your weight, you should be fine. I'm somewhat overweight myself so I understand your fear but I've found that if I'm upfront about it, it generally is not an issue (because those who are concerned about it stop emailing me once they see my pic or they don't respond to my ad in the first place ;-)).
Have you taken the basic safety precautions like having your first meeting in a public place, staying at a hotel, making sure people know where you're going and who this guy is (his full name, where he works), stuff like that? Adventure is great, but hopefully you are being safe as well. This may be basic "no brainer" stuff to you and if so I apologize.
Sheri
Sheri--
Thanks for your support! He's seen accurate photos of me so I am sure it won't be an issue. I know what you mean about the safety measures too....always better safe than sorry. =) But yep, taken care of. I'm so excited about it how could everyone NOT know where I'm going?? Hehe. Thanks for your reply!! Hope everything is going well for you.
Hey - that is sooo exciting!
There are things about me physically that I don't like, so I understand your worries. What I find works the best is just smiling a lot and acting confident. If you think you're hot stuff, so will he. In my experience, men are more attracted to attitude than anything else.
Try not to worry too much and have fun this weekend! Let us know who it goes!
L