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Biggest Mistakes?
| Fri, 06-03-2005 - 12:16pm |
Of all the advice that we have shared and discussed.......what would you consider the biggest mistake one can make in the early stages of OLD?
Life is not measured by how many breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
CL-Truewild1969
Life is not measured by how many breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

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I just posted this on GT:
I agree with you Peanut.
CL-Truewild1969
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A1. Emailing/phoning over one week without meeting in person
2. Meeting someone without a picture
3. Not being very specific in your profile about what you like/dislike
4. Meeting someone who is divorced for <1 year (those separated folks have some wacky math to get their numbers up -- generally it goes like -- 'well it was over for the last 3 years so we've been divorced really 3 years and 1 month...even though it was just official last month'
5. Getting sucked into a lengthy first meet/date and extrapolating that automatically to mean there is lighting like chemistry from both sides
6. Ignoring warning signs and uttering the words "my situation is different"
7. Failing to read "He's just not that into you"
What sp and lg said. And I want to stress this point, actually scream it at all the newbies (and oldies who should know better):
A date is just a date. Keep your expectations close to NIL until you have gotten to know the other person better and find out what they're capable of.
amjay
Lg you're always so good with what to avoid and watch out for!
I would like to add not getting your hopes up about a meet, or even a second meet, because anything can happen, even when it seems that it went well. If you expect nothing from it, then you aren't disappointed. If something does happen to the good, then great.
Oh, and when a guy says he'll call you, that doesn't usually mean that he will, but generally means buh-bye and is usually his evasive way of avoiding that he isn't into you so he can get the heck out of there without a confrontation. But then I guess none of us would really like to discuss why the meeting wasn't a good thing. So don't plan on him calling if he tells you that he will after a first meet.
Sunshine
I know the mistakes...I just don't learn from them!!
1- think "dating", not "relationship"
2- wear your heart armour
3- no sex, or sex talk in the first few meets/dates
4- don't put all your eggs in one basket, see other people
5- learn the word "next"
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