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Biggest Mistakes?
| Fri, 06-03-2005 - 12:16pm |
Of all the advice that we have shared and discussed.......what would you consider the biggest mistake one can make in the early stages of OLD?
Life is not measured by how many breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
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Life is not measured by how many breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

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Hi Amjay,
Think of this when on OLD:
"God bless those who expect Nothing, for they shall Not be disappointed".
Totally agree with you. Go/have fun/come home and Don't "think"...no futurisms and no specualting about what might happen. If he calls again, cool..if Not, lock and roll. Remember that men do not attach to you emotionally for at least 6 weeks...til then, it is anybody's game, so it is best to just go on about your life...and again, Don't "Think"..it will only cause we women a boatload of anxiety!
Truly,
Cupcake
Hi SurferG,
True that! I call all of those excuses "speedbumps"--all they do is slow down your forward progress in getting on with life and enjoying it--only You can make that happen, OR Keep it from occuring! One Knows when they are giving speedbumps or hall passes; it is when you Justify it to your friends, who are Telling you that you are acting a fool, and yet....you continue! lol--but we all do, so lighten up on yourself and try to keep moving forward.
Truly,
Cupcake
So good to read you, cupcake!!! How have you been?
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I have never heard this, but it makes sense to keep it mind when dealing with the guys who are ALL over infatuated with you on the first couple of dates -- and then disppear!
I have to say, though, that some of my best relationships were with men who chose me with no hesitation. That kind of friendship/romance is the best. I don't have the patience for the other kind (and no time!).
Great to hear from you!
amjay
Hi Amjay,
Great to be here and 'read' friends! Things are mondo good with me: 3 months of great with Tall Man, older son graduated from high school, younger son got his driver's license, and I am going to invest in Clairol, as I Feel the grey hair comin' on!!! LOL!
Tall Man usually spends Friday nights bonding with his 2 sons twice a month, and it gives me a night for gym, friends, kids, and mindless shopping--love it! This is one of those nights and I love to log on and see "what Up on the Iv!" Great to see that this is Still the Best place for newbies and everyone to share experiences!
I did not mean that men do not care, in that statement about 6 weeks...I mean that up until then, a girl might see them still on and active on OLD, and the men do not mean any harm by that, but it just takes a little while until they begin to fold you into their daily lives. If we females keep this time frame in mind, it makes those first/frenzied weeks a Lot easier on Us! I am lucky in that TM was 'into me' from Date 1 and I have not had a single worry; we sat down at a month's dating and took our profiles down, at the same time, on his computer. Ahhhhh..the Nestea Plunge, and it Did feel good, so hang in there Y'all!
As always, my best and great luck to everyone here. Remember that you are all worthy of great relationships--don't settle for less! Less sucks!
Truly,
Cupcake(TM's 5 Feet of Heaven)
Good question? I don't think I made any mistakes. His actions are leading me to believe I made a boo boo somewhere. HMM? I wish I knew. Maybe online dating isn't for me.
In reference to the post
Is "this" worth pursuing?
Confused,
tuh4
Hi Dream Angel,
You said, "...You're not supposed to expect a call if he says he'll call. So he'll call when he doesn't say he will?..."
What I meant was not to be surprised if the guys don't call you when they say that they will. Since many times it is just a quick parting line for them to end the meet and get out of there, when they aren't really interested in you. It's not like they are going to say, "This meet wasn't good for me and I don't want to see you again".
He may call if he hasn't said he will, but I guess that depends on if he has asked for your phone number also. But don't count on that either! Just don't count on anything, even if the first meet goes great, you laugh and chat alot, and you seem to have a lot in common - they can still disappear (ghost) after it seems to have been a great first meet.
I'm just saying NOT to put any expectations on him calling you if he has said that he will. Don't plan on it and you won't be hurt, but should he call after all, then great.
No expectations to begin with, then less hurt and rejection to feel...part of developing that thick skin that all OLDers need to develop to make it through online dating without their self esteem being so badly bruised.
Sunshine
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