Blown off?

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Registered: 02-16-2006
Blown off?
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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 1:51pm

OK. This story's kinda long. I went out with a girl I met on match, and it went extremely well (or so I thought). Definitely the best meet I've had during my online dating run. I called her a couple of days later (Thurs) to set up date #2 (an 80s tribute band the following wednesday - we're both 80s buffs). She said yes and sounded very excited. The following Tuesday night, I called to confirm, and she didn't answer or return my call. The next morning, around 10am, I called again and left another message, something like, "I assume you changed your mind about tonight, which is fine. If I'm wrong call me back and let me know." She called me back about an hour later and apologized for not getting back to me the night before. She said she was in a bad car accident Monday night, got hurt, totalled her car, etc. Yeah, I know what you're thinking. I'd be thinking that too if I were you, but I actually believed her - she had way too many details to her story - I won't get into them. She said she was sleeping when I called the night before (too much vicodin), woke up at midnight, saw I called, but decided to wait till the morning to call me back b/c it was so late. She wanted to "reschedule" the date. I told her to call me when things settled down (she was on her way to a follow up doctor's appointment). That was last wednesday. Now it's this wednesday, and, of course, I haven't heard from her. Should I call her again or save this little ounce of pride I have left? Oh yeah, for what it's worth, match says she hasn't been online in 2 weeks...

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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: lhutz72
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 2:03pm
Don't call again.
heather 5-18-10
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In reply to: lhutz72
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 2:14pm
Yeah, that's the way I was leaning. Just needed that second opinion - thank you. I think what bothered me the most was the fact that she apparently wasn't going to call me at all last week - I had to call her twice before she responded. Vicodin or no, she should have let me know she was going to bail. Man, dating sure is fun...
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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: lhutz72
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 2:18pm

I totally agree!

heather 5-18-10
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In reply to: lhutz72
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 10:57pm
If she really was in a car accident I would say call her and see how she is doing. Asume the best not the worst. She may be assuming if you don't call to see how she is doing you don't care. Yes she should have called and cancled, but I have to imagine depending upon how bad the car accident was she may be someone out of it.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: lhutz72
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 2:16pm
If it is a bad car accident she might be not interested in dating for a while especially that you say she was hurt. If she wants to see you she will call you.
Trying to contact her again now will only look desperate. Dont do it.