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| Sun, 07-31-2005 - 6:27pm |
Ok, one of the other discussions leads me to this question. I'm having a hell of a time settling on a body type to put on my profile. At what point does average become "a few extra pounds"? Granted, I'm losing that last bit of weight on my butt, so in a couple months it will be a moot point, but how do you think men perceive an average, "extra" & curvy woman's body?
Annie

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Most guys don't know about 14, 16 or 18 and really don't care. For them if you look good to them physically, that's a plus! I'm a size 18 but on my profile I list "Thick" (Yahoo) or "Few Extra Pounds" (other sites) because I'm meaty all over -- shapely but stacked (breasts, hips, tummy, etc.). I guess I should also mention that I'm African-American, so being healthy is more acceptable. Regardless of race, it's really all about being PROPORTIONATE and of course, if the guy finds your body-type appealing. Of course, there are many things I cannot wear, but I dress to flatter my figure.
I have a galfriend who is a Plus Size/BBW (over 250+) and has more dates than me. Remember, it's all about being comfortable in your own skin and all guys will NOT be attracted to you!! There are plenty that will be attracted though!!
Exactly...and it is more acceptable for african americans, I get a lot of african american males emailing me from my pictures, more so than caucasian males.
I would like to lose weight, but I"m comfortable in my own skin if that makes any sense. LOL
I have found that being on the bbw dating site, I have many more dates, then I ever did on match.com, maybe because those on the bbw dating site, prefer bbw. I'm not sure...but I get winks and emails all the time.
I find match.com to be the worse, I think there are a lot of shallow men on that website. And the ones that do write, they obviously don't read the profiles, just go on pictures, and I want someone interested in ME not just my long hair and big boobs. LOL
You are all thinking to much here. If you are up to a size 18 I would say you have a few extra lbs. If you are talking with a person on line and have a current photo they can see. It is not your dress size I would be worried about but this womans personality I am e-mailing with.
Online dating is like shopping for a book. I am not buying a book for the cover but the story inside. Northwestwander you are not big , you look like the average size woman.
Travkitty-
Get a friend to "work" with you and a digital camera.
I just had some updated pictures of myself taken. I needed them badly! My mom looked at my pictures online and said I needed some new ones, so she snapped about 20 and we picked the best. I'm a size 14, but I'm also 5'9. I list "a few extra pounds" as I am about 20lbs over my goal weight (150). I'm pretty proportionate except for my birthing hips LOL
I too get winks and emails from men who are just looking at my pictures and not even reading my profile. Most of them are too old, too short, or live too far away. Those are the three main things I look for automatically. Most of them say "I don't see a few extra pounds!" But they are there LOL
If anyone wants to check out my new photos and give a critique, my match.com name is deltag04. Thanks!
Layx2
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