Broken heart but I'll be ok!

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Broken heart but I'll be ok!
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Thu, 05-12-2005 - 3:48am

Hi everyone, (LONG READ)


 
 

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Sun, 05-15-2005 - 4:23pm

Hi Peanut,

I'm sorry to hear about your breakup, but it does sounds like you are doing good... but no matter how it happens it can be hard on us. It seems like two people are rarely on the same page at the same time.

I wonder at times what will happen with the guy I am dating now (3.5 months together) and myself. We are getting past that infatuation time and some issues are cropping up that we have to iron out, but I know that happens in every relationship, but it does make you wonder sometimes. But I am trying not to overanalyze this relationship, just letting it happen.

Well Peanut, take care of yourself and keep up the good attitude. I still say it's better to have taken a chance with a relationship than not to have done it at all.

Sunshine

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Sun, 05-15-2005 - 8:37pm

Thank you.


Hey, work on those issues and I'm rooting for you---hopefully he'll be as open in the communication department.

 
 
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Registered: 09-18-2004
Mon, 05-16-2005 - 4:17pm
it's good to see you are doing well Peanut. It sounds as if your self esteem is way up there and did not shoot down after the break up which does help..Good luck to you!
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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 4:25pm

Thank you, life is too short to be worrying about why or how come – can’t change it, can’t fix it so instead I’ll take away what I learned and carry that on with me throughout life. Besides, I feel very optimistic and am pretty much over it. Ready for my vacation and to date again believe it or not – maybe this weekend, we’ll see!


 
 
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Registered: 03-17-2005
Mon, 05-16-2005 - 4:47pm
It only took a weekend?
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Mon, 05-16-2005 - 6:09pm

Hey SP,

I'm so happy to see you're doing so well. I was thinking about you over the weekend and wondering (worrying) how you were doing.

Maui sounds fabulous. (I firmly believe in "geographical cures"!) And there's nothing like a drive along the coast in a convertible to lift your spirits!!!!

Good job SP!

Luv

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Mon, 05-16-2005 - 6:52pm

Thank you for your sweet words.

 
 
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Mon, 05-16-2005 - 11:15pm

Hi Peanut,

It is so good to hear you so upbeat. Yes it was definitely the Lizard Man's loss!!! The trip to Maui sounds great and I know it'll be great medicine for you! Maybe you'll even meet your lifemate there - you never know! And I bet you do look cute in that Mustang convertible!

Thanks for saying you're rooting for me with my relationship. We do talk about things but not as much as I'd like, but I think that's the gender difference. With us, it's mainly discussing the willingness in each of us to make compromises for things that are very important to the other person. Also he has never been married and is not used to having a person in his life like he does now, so those are adjustments for him, which he says that he likes. Where I was married for many years and had adjusted to sharing my life with another person - that is more normal to me than being single. Basically I'd say we are both doing pretty well though in adjusting.

But thanks again for your encouragement, you are truly a sweet lady and deserve a great guy in your life! Have a great time in Maui!

Sunshine

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 12:16am

Hi Peanut,

I want to say that I regret that this happened to you, but...alll of the episodes we go thruin life lead us to understand and appreciate when the right One does come along! We DO "live and learn", although it truly sucks sometime! You sound like you have things set well in your mind. Give yourself time to go thru all of the emotions that come with a break-up, but remember that you are still YOU, and that is Wonderful!

Not sure that I am thrilled that he said he would not have broken up with you, but would have let it just go on...if one party Knows things are not progressing, then I feel it is respectful to let the other Know what the 4-1-1 is. As far as partying and drinking bringing one some giant revelation for solving problems...Nope, not that either! I feel that you were Your great cupcake self and gave him a LOT of hall passes about issues. Next time, you will know more about what You need and want.

Tall Man continues to be great. I do not NEED a man, but I Desire someone who treats me like not only his Love, but his best friend. Kinda Hallmark, I know. We have had a few times where we needed to talk and adjust, and I am Very grateful for that; if it is all smooth sailing, then somone is Not getting to man their own rudder, and that means someone is caving in to keep things going well...not good!

Please Don't give up...none of us ever gets a guarantee with any of these relationships. Find someone who is willing to work with you to make it happen. Forget 50/50, I think it is 110%/110%--but it should feel like a Desire, and not a job!

It may feel like a Hard Candy Christmas right now, but 3 weeks form now, you will look back and say "I did well" and be proud of yourself--and Happy too!

take care
Truly,
Cupcake

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