Butterflies, Giddyness and Such........
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Butterflies, Giddyness and Such........
| Thu, 11-17-2005 - 10:58am |
Yep, I'm there.
You know I hate to say it, admit it and don't like it, but why is it so difficult to stay in check when you meet someone you really like??? Help get me back into reality!!
Don't even know the guy all that well yet! Geez!!

CL-Truewild1969
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Yes, but after reading the posts (from Sheri and others) I'm staying grounded -- back into reality! I feel his pursuit is slow, but heck what am I in a hurry for! (smile) I'm going to the concert w/my girlfriend and he is obviously still interested. I'm not holding my breath (although I did tell him I was still interested in talking) and will continue seeing others.
If anything by this experience, it's good to know that I can feel sparks. I've been so without/celibate for so long, I was beginning to think possibly I wouldn't feel sparks again! Obviously forgot what it felt like, I lost my mind (and thinking)!!
I've never considered myself a hopeless romantic, however, I tend to believe that some butterflies and some spark are a necessary part in the mix of finding a guy you might be able to spend a lot of time with...maybe even for a lifetime. I think staying grounded is good, but to not have some of those sparks, some of those feelings about a guy that makes you a bit nervous is sometimes an indicator of how you really feel about the guy.
Remember my blind date last Sunday? I had met the guy the Friday before, and while he seemed like a nice enough guy, there was zero in the "sparks" department. Absolutely nothing about his looks (or personality) that made me even want to get to know him any better. I honestly couldn't care less if he ever called again or didn't. THAT, to me, indicates that he would not be a good match for me. And while sparks are not something that stays around for very long if you end up in a long-term relationship, I do still feel that they need to be there at the "beginning" in order to endure to the next phase of dating. I think most people are kidding themselves if they say that sparks don't really matter. I say they do or you probably aren't likely to stay a couple for any length of time.
Edited 11/17/2005 11:42 am ET by mitsy2
Oh I totally agree. I think for most, there has to be something in order for people to want to make the time to invest in a potential person. There is so much game-playing and people not being sincere that I understand when I meet people who are just not willing to do anything if there is no real true interest (or spark there). I've met men that there were no sparks and did give it a chance of going out again -- but realistically the 2nd date was spread out cause it was more forced then anything. It's true when they say, you know within the first five minutes if you like someone or want to see them again.
This guy I met, I liked, had sparks and thought he should have called the NEXT day! Have to realize that people don't always follow the same protocol! For most on this board, if he's interested he will be calling the next day! This guy took 3 days! I'm still interested but keeping my options open. Of course, this will present the next problem -- once you already have sparks for someone and seeing them, will I honestly WANT to go out and meet other men?? I have a potential meet and greet tonight and just because I heard from the other guy I'm not pressed to contact the other. I am going to do it though just to stay grounded but I would bet there will be no sparks since I feel sparks for someone else. Ugh! The necesssary evil called "DATING"! (smile)
"This guy I met, I liked, had sparks and thought he should have called the NEXT day! Have to realize that people don't always follow the same protocol!"
Yes, and you have to have a much thicker skin than I have to do OLD without any emotional let-downs. Even though I know most men don't think like a woman would, I still expect a certain amount of courtesy and following the rules when you are getting to know someone. I expect a phone call when they say they will call and I expect a natural progression of things whether it's online dating or regular dating. My patience runs pretty thin when I continually find men who don't seem to care if you're waiting on them to return your message or they don't call you within a reasonable amount of time. This has been the same scenario over and over again with all of my online encounters. That is why I'm taking a break from it.
That's chemistry and it's the Universe's way of saying this person is special. Do not discount it. Most of us hate it because we are out of control but enjoy it because there isn't anything better than being giddy, weak kneed and such.
F
And let's be honest here..how many of us can fake excitement over a guy we aren't attracted to (physically or personality-wise)? I've done quite a lot of thinking about my so-so blind date last weekend. Although we did meet a couple days before, (so it wasn't totally "blind") I felt basically nothing about the guy.
The fact that I really didn't care if I ever saw him again was an indicator that I could never feel butterflies or that rush of excitement when going out with someone you're attracted to. Maybe I am picky, as some friends and family tell me, but I just can't see wasting a guy's time, or my own time, if there is nothing there. Usually if you click, even remotely, you want to see him again. And while I wouldn't loath an evening out with the guy, I don't think I'd want to go again unless it was a double-date thing and had my friend and her hubby there to help with the conversation. Not what you'd call a good sign. :0