bye to bach #1 and #2
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| Tue, 01-18-2005 - 6:46pm |
so they are both gone. Bach #1, i was happy to see go. He really wasn't my type personality or looks wise. but.... bach #2, im sad to see go.
Bach #2, I saw and talked to a lot.
So we progressed nicely I thought over the last two months. Finally last wed on our date, we had a talk. Came up naturally - but i think that was it for he & I.
I haven't heard from him since last wed. isn't like him at all...we were both away in the mtns this past weekend.... SO i thought i'd hear from him today.. just asking how things were... he usuallly calls when he gets back into town to see how i am and to make plans for the coming week...
its so sad, no call , no email today.
I knew things were weird for him when he left. But thought he'd get over it after a few days out of town...
Argh
totally sucks. I thought I wouldn't care, but I guess i do....
and the OLD prospects I have right now, are SO NOT even worth writing to. So I"m on my lonesome for awhile.
And I guess this would qualify as a ghosting. if i dont hear from him next week still, i'll count him out as a lame ghoster. I refuse to call or email him though...i dont want to chase him...

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surfer, I am very, very sorry this has happened, if you liked him.
Have yourself a merry ol' pity party, picture terrible things being done to That Loser, and take a short break from OLD. But not from the board. Might do some good, who knows?
But I have to say, I wouldn't really consider him as ghosting even though he hasn't called. I don't know what was said at your meet, but it sounds like things came to a head there and he has bailed. The 2 month mark tends to be the decision time, IMO.
amjay
im having a total pity party for myself. I guess he wasn't ghosting, you were right amjay. I guess I wish timing were different for he & i, then there wouldnt be an issue.
the deal breaker was the fact he wouldnt sleep over allt he time. out of the many times we've gone out, ive only slept at his place one time and he at mine. reason was because he felt committed if he slept over all the time.
Ah well.
I need to go pamper my sad self... Tonight is going to be some lovely wine and some really good tear jerkers on tv for me.
I dont understand how there are supposedly all these single men in my city- but yet Ive been single for 3 years now! blahhhhhhh waaaaaaaa
(i'm really ok, just whining on the board)
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Oh, I feel your pain! :)
Sorry to hear that...but OHMYGOSH, he thought *sleeping over* was some big commitment???? WTF???
I'm just shaking my head here. Take care of yourself tonight, ok?
Sheri
This is the place to whine. Then when the inevitable adorable one comes along, you'll be chipper again.
Hugs, sympathy, and luck,
Calla
Surf
Enjoy the wine and the whine.
Be good to you!
Michele
oh its no secret, just got into a long tlak about where we are right now in life and with each other. didn't turn out too well. i thought we were fine since we hadn't really ended anything and things were somewhat normal when he left....
i know we'll talk again, but as far as romantic thing, i dont think so. hes just not ready to committ, and while im not ready for something very serious, I really would like things to go forward with potential. he can't really say there is. And I respect that, hes not telling me what most men seem to do "well down the road..."
SO thats that. thanks for your thoughts. I'm sad, but i'll be fine in a few days...
>>And I guess this would qualify as a ghosting. if i dont hear from him next week still, i'll count him out as a lame ghoster. I refuse to call or email him though.<<
So if he does the same thing to you that you're doing to him (ie, not calling or emailing) then HE is the ghost?
I don't think so. Nope, that doesn't work for me. :P
Seriously, he's probably kind of weirded out. You had "the talk" about being exclusive, and he's not ready for that right now. Okay. The question, then, is whether or not YOU are willing to accept what he's got to give.
Since you were, that's cool. You like him. Things are usually easy with him, right?
Well, speaking as a guy, if you had that talk with me and I said I wasn't ready, and if you didn't make it TOTALLY clear that you still wanted to see me, I might not call you anymore.
Why? Because I'd think that you weren't willing to take what I had to give.
So unless you know for a fact that it was clear to him that this wasn't a "date me exclusively or we're through" talk, go ahead and call him. Don't be a doormat; if you're not willing to accept the partial part of him he's able to give right now, then you gotta walk away.
But if you're cool with just hanging with him and waiting to see if he's going to be ready, then you need to call him or email him. Let him know that it's okay with you.
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