a call after the first date

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Registered: 04-07-2003
a call after the first date
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Fri, 02-02-2007 - 3:09pm

About a month ago I got a wink from this great guy I met on Match.com. Last Tuesday we met for the first time for drinks (we are both divorced and in our late 40’s). He was very intrigue by me (that is what he said). He gave me so many compliments, thought I’m a very attractive woman and look much younger than my age. Told me about his parents, brother, son, their names, where they live. Wanted to know all about my kids, parents, their names, where they live etc – we had a lot in common. Said he loved my smile, the smell of my hair (he kept smelling me). He asked me if I’m comfortable, if I want to have dinner with him and order appetizers. He even fed me and said: “don’t you think we have a little chemistry here”. He was looking at me all the whole time and said he fills so great around me that he doesn’t want to leave. He even talked about the future. He escort me to my car and said we will be in touch soon. He gave me a kiss on my lips. The next day (Wednesday), around noon time I sent him an email (via Match) -- thanking him for a great evening and said that I hope we can do it again. Wednesday night he looked at my profile again, but didn’t email me back.

So what is the deal here? I don’t get it. I thought the guy was so into me. Why do you think he didn’t call or email yet – did he lose interest? I’m really confuse. The man was so captivated by me the whole evening – what is going on?

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Registered: 05-28-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 1:16am

"Sorry HJNTIY, but if it were true that every time a guy met a woman that he was really into he would through all his old phone numbers away and stop hitting on other woman than there wouldn't be so many married men cheating on their wives and divorces."
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Well, the answer to this one is obvious- the guys who're cheating, or guys who wind up getting divorced, aren't THAT into their wives.

The mistake you're making is in believing that just because a guy gets married it means he's THAT into a woman. Lots of guys get into relationships with women they're just not that into. Go re-read the book, it's full of those stories. Or just ask/look around at your female friends- if you have, say, one female friend, I can just about guarantee that you've got at least ONE female friend who was in a relationship with a guy who wasn't that into her.

In fact, I'd be willing to bet that you yourself has been in a relationship with a guy who turned out to not be all that into you. :(

Point being that yes, there are guys who cheat on their wives. Obviously, if they're cheating on her, they're not that into her!

I'm saying, though, that there are guys who ARE that into their wives (or girlfriends) and they DO throw away their little black books and turn into one-women men. Just because you haven't had that lightning strike you yet doesn't mean it doesn't happen- and it doesn't mean it isn't about to happen to YOU. ;) (I'm an optimist, we ALL deserve that lightning!)

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