Calling Rules...

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Registered: 06-18-2003
Calling Rules...
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 3:13pm
The guy I’m involved and met online about 2 months ago is with is at the beach with his entire family. I called him last night at 10pm. He hasn’t called me back yet. His family doesn’t know about me which might explain things. But I want to talk to him about my visiting him tomorrow… he called me earlier in the week on night and I didn’t call him back and the next day he called me wondering why. Now I’m doing the wondering.

How long should you wait before you call someone the second time when they didn’t return your first call???

How long is it and how many calls is it before someone is not returning your calls??

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nikkii24
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 4:05pm
Is the visit something he suggested? If so, I'd call again and leave a specific message, such as "I'm calling to work out the details of your invitation to visit tomorrow. Please call me back by 6 PM tonight so that I can make arrangements. Otherwise, I'll assume the visit is off."

If it's something YOU suggested, I wouldn't call him again.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nikkii24
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 4:05pm
I only call, in the beginning, to return a call or if I was asked to call to confirm a plan - I will call twice in case he didn't get my message but will wait 24 hours - in your case since you need to know what the plan is, call him so that he has time to tell you that - but that's it - just one more. Sounds like you two need to communicate better so you don't start over-analyzing the meaning of non-returned calls.
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Registered: 06-18-2003
In reply to: nikkii24
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 4:40pm
He suggested the visit. I'm not sure that i'm over analysing the unreturned call. He's with his family and they don't know about me so it might be awkward for him to be on the phone with me or calling them around them. I'll give him a call this evening and see if I get a response. I'm just insecure and hopefully making something out of nothing. But I hate to feel like i'm bugging him or calling too much. It's a fine line.