Can this be true?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Can this be true?
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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 2:19pm

If you have been following on my stacking of online guys, I am dating few guys right now. But I am very interested in what I call my guy#1, in other postings I asked for your advice since I wasn't getting a response from him, so I started moving on... Well, he emailed me yesterday with an update of why he hasn't contacted in a while.

Read on:

The guy i am editing this film for fell under hard
times due to the loss of his baby.
It cost him a lot out of pocket and he hasn't been able to pay me my
salary for a while.
Therefore, i am both very broke right now and very embarrassed.
This is the real reason I have been so distant...I'm freaking out about
how I will pay this months bills.
I went negative last month...i'm freaking out!!!
I'm that broke and very embarrassed about it.
I hope you understand...until my situation changes i won't be doing
anything with anyone.
If this film dosen't do well I will be completely screwed.

Should I believe him, do you think this is legitimate answer or just an excuse?

By the way I am still going out with my guy#2, who's status can easily move to #1 if this other guy doesn't put his act together, eventhough I like him a lot and think he's being sincere.

Your thoughts, opinions?

ps I enjoy your postings so much, I read them every day and eventhough I don't always answer them, I am here all the time.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 10:56am

I'd believe him, for the same reasons Lizzie stated in her reply. A man's self respect is so dependent on their ability to provide. The fact that he continues to keep in contact with you, IMO says that he is interested in you.
I can relate to his hesitancy to date given his current situation. I've been in the same situation...free-lance work in the film/television/theatre industry and it's either feast or famine. When money was tight, I'd become very reclusive.
If I were in your position I would just hang back and continue on with #2 and whoever else strikes your fancy. Even if #1 continues to keep in touch, he's not in a position to date anyone. Don't write him off as a liar, and as Lizzie said, be supportive and be a friend. Don't give him any money should the situation arise and don't offer to pay for any dates.

Good Luck
Chele

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