Can I contact him again after a month???
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| Wed, 07-06-2005 - 9:46pm |
I started online dating about 2 months ago. From the get go, I started chatting with 2 guys at once (let's say their names are dan and mike). Dan was alittle more agressive... so we out on a few dates and we had a great. Then, I went out with mike and we also had a great time. But things were going so well with dan that we both decided to take down our profiles. Mike sent me an email the next week, but I never responded back to him.
Anyway, dan and I never really worked out, so now I'm back online.
My question is... it okay to contact this mike again??? And if so, what do I say to him without it seeming like he's the second choice? I did have a good time with him and would like go out with him again... and I probably rushed things with dan. I learned.
Thanks for any advice!!

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Edited 7/8/2005 10:48 am ET ET by sniffle_sally
Thanks for everyone advice and interesting comments!
Update... I did contact him... sent him a simple email similar to what Sheri suggested... and he did write back! He wants to go out again sometime next week. So I'm glad I sent him the email... I really don't think it was a big deal.
You know, I take this kind of situation on a case-by-case basis. Sometimes I get so many responses that I will be honest with some guys I actually do have an interest in, telling them I'm swamped & it may be a while before I can truly respond. Sometimes a guy will email me, but as more emails come in, his gets pushed to the 2nd page & I'm plumb forget.
No, in terms of guys doing this, you don't know the situation. I'd been talking to this guy, Paul, on Match for maybe a week. We exchanged a few emails, but then he said he can really only date one woman at a time & that he had met a girl he was talking to before we started talking. They clicked, so he wanted to focus on their chemistry & see how it went. In that case, I thought it was totally cool & to contact me again if things didn't work out & maybe I'd still be available. Lo & behold, he emails me yesterday saying he & the girl decided to just be friends & asked if I was available & interested in meeting. In that case, I would (and will) give a second chance.
I did have a decent first date the other night. He wants to go out again. I didn't feel a lot of romantic chemistry, but I liked him nonetheless on some level. I think it's worth a 2nd date to see if anything clicks before writing him off.
Annie
As I have said before...there are no set rules.
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