can I just vent???

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Registered: 04-13-2000
can I just vent???
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Fri, 04-12-2013 - 4:41pm

Ladies,

I will try not to just ramble on here but am frustrated. So I joined Match about 3 weeks ago, 25 days to be exact. Can you believe that I have had 3 guys try to pull a scam on me? That was my 1st week - wth!! Match isnt cheap but if its full of posers, I am willing to lose my money than waste my time. Then last Friday, this guy emails me, we start chatting, asked him to send me a pic in email, as I wanted to record his location (this is how I caught the would be scammers) and he seemed legit. So over the weekend, we were emailing and texting and Monday after about 10A, he goes incommunicado. So that night, I texted him and said you ok? Nada. Next morning, I log on my Yahoo messenger, I see convos from him the night before. something about having issues with his fence at home (due to high winds) and changing his number blah blah. So i was like, ok, apprently, no phone for 3 days but he can chat. Which, he really did, brought his Ipad to work and so Wed, we were planning on meeting when I am in the area, he was actually very verbal, we started talking on the phone, short talks and then was planning on talking a whloe lot more last nite. Btw, he called me in the afternoon, but I missed it, so I called him back, talked for about 10 mins, when we hung up, he texted me with an XOXO. So around 5P he texted me and said, on my way home, will call you when get in. (he commutes 2 hrs) So I was thinking he would call around 8P or 9P, rolls around, nothing, texted him no response. I hear a beep on my phone, alerts me to an email and what do you know, him stating, that he doesnt think he can push through with the online dating blah blah, its not me, its him...

What irritates me the most is, really, dude, you have to do this in email plus, mix messages?? I really do think that men are much more than girlies than we are. When I get hits on Match and I am not interested, I let them know. Now I wish the guys would do the same or stop trolling! Like how many times can you look at my pic? Just try me, say something!

Sorry, I did blabber but I needed to let this out..i dont need a prince charming, i dont need the tin man, i just want a real one! what rock are they hiding under???

KA

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Sun, 04-21-2013 - 4:22pm

@Wisdom

I did offer my perspective--it's the first response to the original post. What I gathered from her post is that she is frustrated with online dating because she's heard from scammers, and then there was a particular guy that was proving difficult to connect with. 

Nowhere in her post was she indicating that she was going to jump into the sack with him right away, or that he was suggesting it. And, I think both men and women are interested in sex, but that doesn't mean they want to have sex on the first date, or even the third. Call me naive, but I don't think all men are just geared to get laid. And if that is all they want from me, then I will pass. I'm not convinced that women have been told to "give it away and still expect the fairly tale" either.

But that's just me. It takes a lot of people to make a world.

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Sun, 04-21-2013 - 11:52pm

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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:55pm
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Fri, 04-26-2013 - 2:37am

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Sat, 05-04-2013 - 10:58am

KA   I have tried the dating sites 3 years,match,eharmony,chemistry,and lots of free sites also.the fact is it's a cesspool for perverts and or scammers.I have ben widowed for 4 years and thought I could find a decent guy to date,that was my first mistake.First you lose your money then your self esteem.when guys see women online they assume we're looking for a hookup which  I always stated I am not.Then the lies they are also looking for a relationship.(they sre not) the ads for these sites are endless showing happy couples out and about your lucky to get a cup of coffee from these meetups.I usually pay for own.The last guy I had a coffee date asked me"do you usually wear costume jewelery?" the guy before wanted me to show cleavage and spike heals??? OMG where have all the good guys gone?the very first guy I met on match was a total scammer I found out after 3 months we chatted endlessly till I finally got him to confess he was a scammer from Africa.We need to find a better way to meet singles but it's not online.

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Mon, 05-06-2013 - 12:53pm

I havent logged on in a while, just busy with work travel and all.

Thanks for all the responses, encouraging, discouraging, or whatever you call them. The reason I had posted my rants, is because really thats what they were, rants. I am not arrogant or feel that a guy needs to give me their 100% attention, because, frankly, I dont want that, that would just be too needy. I just wanted an honest guy, man up and say, this is not for me and not be flaky about your decisions.

Believe me, i was married for almost 20 years but things change in a relationship and I am sure like most ppl on this board, we do believe in that happily ever after, maybe not a fairy tale but more of a what makes each one of us happy.

I was able to catch the scammers, which would have led to the them asking money just by where the convos where going by asking them to email me and I check the email header, and sure enough they were either in russia, nigeria or africa.

Thanks to all who replied, I know everyone here is busy with their lives.

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