Can somebody please kick my butt??! ARRG
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| Mon, 01-01-2007 - 5:55pm |
I just want to vent here...
I met this guy online... we talked a couple of times on the phone, and we seem to really connect... had a lot of stuff in common, etc...
We decided to meet up yesterday on New Year's Eve. We both had parties to go to at night, so we decided to meet up in the afternoon, and if we'll like each other, we would decide to go to one party together...
Well, long story short: we met up, liked each other, made out, had sex, and stayed in bed instead of hitting any New Year's Eve Party.
I know, I know... I shouldnt have give in, but at that moment, it just felt great... and now I'm sooooooooooo mad at myself... coz I was looking for a relationship not an one-night-stand... and of course, knowing that guys probably wont call you after you already had sex with them on the first date... I'm just mad at myself... just knowing that there is probably no chance that he is gonna call afterwards, now that he got everything he probably wanted...
Sorry, just want to vent... and thanks for listening...

Well, it sounds like you're doing a pretty darn good job of kicking your own butt, so I won't add to that!
What's done is done...you can't change it, all you can do is decide NOT to do the same thing in the future if that behavior causes you stress.
I was married to a man I slept with the night we met--so it's not necessarily fatal to having a serious LTR. That said, I wouldn't recommend it and don't do that any more...but if it's meant to be, it'll work out regardless of how quickly you slept together. But I think you can increase the chances of things working out if you don't sleep together right away, plus you don't go through as much of the "is he going to call again" angst if you wait until you know each other pretty well.
Sheri
Just wanted to throw this in there - it's not necessarily true that a guy won't call you if you have sex on a first date.