Can't quite figure him out

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Registered: 06-23-2005
Can't quite figure him out
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 9:45am

Hi all. I'm am new to this board and am hoping for some feedback.

I met a guy through Match back in October. We had a lunch date and things seemed to go really well. We talked on the phone several times after that and have constantly kept in touch since then.

So here is the problem - he has yet to ask me out again. We seem to have alot in common and always have nice conversations but I just cannot seem to figure out why he never asked for a second date. I am assuming he is still somewhat interested or else he wouldn't continue to keep in touch with me. I do know he is extremely busy since he is a single dad that has his son every other week but I'm am wondering if I should continue talking with him or should I basically write him off.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 9:54am

Hi there and welcome to the board!

heather 5-18-10
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 10:11am
Thanks. That is basically the same thing I have been thinking. But I was also wondering if I should just come right out and politely ask what he deal is. If so, does anyone know of a polite way to do this?
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 10:26am

I'm not sure what the point of asking would be. I doubt he'd tell you anything that would help. I would just stop answering his calls/emails, unless you're really ok with having him as a pen pal.

Sheri

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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 1:41pm

The same thing happened to me except once he found out I wasn't going to put out he lost interest. He did however keep in touch. I asked him what does he expect from me?

So maybe you askhim the same thing. I'd say he's your aquainatance based on the information given.

Keep looking and always be honest with yourself.


BABY GIRL DUE ON JUNE 25TH
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 1:48pm
You probably won't get a straight answer anyway or he'd say something like "of course!
heather 5-18-10
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 1:51pm

AGree, he's just not that into you otherwise he'd ask you out again, bottom line.

 
 
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 2:19pm

I suggest you be extremely patient with him. He sounds like he juggles a lot and his child obviously is a priority. Just keep doing what you do and I am sure when he has a moment he will ask you out. He appears interested since he is keeping in touch with you so just give him some time.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 2:30pm
Busy is one thing, but for over 5 months he can't ask her out?
heather 5-18-10
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 2:36pm

Yes, it might not be until 2010, but I'm sure he'll ask her when he has time!

Oh, Kiki, I'm sorry, but your post had me laughing out loud (not AT you, I hope you know). You really do give people the benefit of the doubt don't you ;-)? Good for you...I have no patience for people like this who can't find time for a frickin' cup of COFFEE, for crying out loud ;-)! I've had a number of these guys in my life and they just frustrate me no end with their emails in which they do NOT ask me out. Some guys really DO just want pen and/or phone pals...that is the extent of their "interest". I personally find that my life is much less frustrating when these men are not in it any longer.

Sheri