cant stand guys lying about height anymo

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Registered: 09-09-2003
cant stand guys lying about height anymo
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 10:39pm

I m just fed up. This is like 10th time it happens to me.
In their profile they say 6' while in real life they are more like 5' 8''!!!
what is this outright lying for!!

Tonite I met a guy who said he is 6' tall in his profile.I m 5' 6'' and wear heels so I become at most 5' 9'' and I was taller than him!! he must be 5' 8'' or 5' 7'' but why lying and big time! I would not mind if he added 1'' but not 4''!!

Can anyone recommend a way to nicely learn a guys height from chatting?

I prefer taller guys. It is not a deal breaker but with other factors it might become.

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Registered: 06-01-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 11:17pm

I had the same thing happen to me. It is so ridiculous because obviously we are going to find out the truth! The guy I met on Friday had a profile that stated he was 6'1 and built. His pictures seemed to verify this, but oh have I learned how wrong a picture can be. I am 5'6 and about 125 pounds, but I swear when this guy gave me a hug I felt like I was 7 feet tall and 400 pounds. He was so tiny; built, yes, but on a very small scale! It totally turned me off, not so much because I usually go for taller guys, but more because he lied.

I talked to a different guy on the phone the next day and I said "so, you're 6 feet tall," in a really casual tone, like I was verifying that I had remembered his profile correctly. He said "yes" and I said "good, I like tall guys." I'm sure he still could have lied at that point, but at least he's aware of where I stand.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 12:34am
I'm laughing SO hard right now! I've had the EXACT same problem. I don't think there is an easy way to do this unless it's up front. In initial conversations with guys (before I meet them), the discussion usually leads to "what are your funny stories". Usually the guy talks about a woman being heavier than she states and I laugh and say the same about height. I can usually judge by the response, if a guy's lying or not. There have been times when I meet a guy and want to call him out on it but then I realize that there's a reason he lied and probably has a major height complex. What a crack up! At least women can lose weight but I guy can't grow taller...
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 1:27am

So why can't you talk to him on the phone before meeting (I always do that anyway) and ask him directly to confirm his "real" height. You can relate your past bad experiences and from that how you hate liers and it does not matter how good your impression meeting the guy is if the guy lies upfront beforehand. You can say the next time you meet someone who is shorter than he says, you will just turn around and get back into the car without bothering to even talk to him.

Mark

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 9:28am

I've had a couple of guys lie about their height. There was one in particular that killed me. He had stated on his profile that he was 5'9". That's fine because I am 5'4". We were at his house one day (we dated a few times) and he didn't have his shoes on and I had flat flip flops on. We were the same height! lol He was showing me around his house and telling me about pictures of his family that were hanging up in his home office. He said his dad was 5'5" and his mom was 5' and that he didn't know where he got his 5'9" height from!!!! lol It took all I had NOT to laugh in his face! I don't know what kind of ruler he was using but it wasn't a 12 inch one! :) He was a nice guy but I prefer guys that are at least 4 inches taller than me AND tell the truth about it. I wouldn't lie about my weight on my profile so why do guys have to lie about their height? I guess we all have insecurities but come on, if the other person is going to find out you were lying, that's just totally embarassing. I like to put things upfront about myself and if the guy doesn't like it then he can keep on going because I know there will be someone out there that will like what I have and like who I am. :) I wish guys would do the same...

Jennifer

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 10:44am
I always say that, 90% of the men under 6'0" lie by an inch, two or three.
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 12:11pm

Ugh, that must be frustrating! It's interesting, but I haven't had this issue come up too often...for me, it's more frequent to find a guy lying about his age. There's this guy on CL I've ended up responding to a couple times, not realizing it was him each time, because he puts a different age on every ad! He wanted to meet, but I told him I'm not interested because of the dishonesty.

Anyway, I like the idea of confirming the guy's height in your initial phone call before meeting.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:35pm

I think it's just an insecurity thing but yeah, I KNOW I would rather have a guy that is secure with himself and tells me the truth than a liar who does so because he wants to seem more manly.


My funniest height story is actually a resurrection of Mr. Handsy.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:57pm

That's pretty funny about Mr. Handsy, LOL!!!

But I do think that it's easy to misjudge height when people are within an inch or two of our own height. I always tend to think people are the same height as me or even a little shorter, when in fact they are an inch or two taller. We sometimes have to line up by height in my singing group and I always put myself too high up in the line, ha! So, if a guy says he's 5'9" and we meet and he seems like he's my height or even a tad shorter (I'm 5'7"), I keep that in mind and don't assume that he was lying.

But five inches is WAY too much grace, ha!

Sheri