cats?

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Registered: 06-27-2005
cats?
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Wed, 07-13-2005 - 5:53pm
How would you feel about a guy who has a picture of his cat in the profile?
Also, what do they mean by "friends first"? I am confused.
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Registered: 06-27-2005
In reply to: ivosoh
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 8:16pm

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That is why I am installing my new rule - no sex for 2 month :)

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Registered: 06-27-2005
In reply to: ivosoh
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 8:36pm
OMG, I just went and looked at the cat-man profile. AHHHHH he has "never been in commited r/ship". His profile screams "I have issues". My eye sight must of been clouded my my grief over the recent breakup!!! Oh no..
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In reply to: ivosoh
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 9:08pm
Can you paste his profile text here for us to nitpick? LOL!
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Registered: 07-24-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 9:29pm

Here's the thing about a man with cats:

Dogs are pretty happy-go-lucky. Neglect and abuse notwithstanding (and often in spite of that), they will love you unconditionally. With a CAT, on the other hand, you have to earn their trust and love. It says a lot about a man if he is willing to take the time to develop a relationship with a cat.

I'm on the board at my local Humane Society, and I love all the critters, but my experience has shown that men who have cats (as true companions) tend to be more patient than the dog lovers, who tend to be more social.

Hopefully I haven't opened a whole can of worms with my simplistic analogy! (HA HA - can of WORMS -- no pun intended on the animal jokes!!)

As for being 36 with no serious prior commitments? You're on your own there, darlin'!!

Tracy

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Registered: 06-27-2005
In reply to: ivosoh
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 9:34pm
This is his intro:
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Registered: 12-05-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Sat, 07-16-2005 - 2:42pm

silly me..i thought "friends first" meant they didnt want to have sex right off the bat...

damn i am 40 yrs old..am i alone on this and still ignorant?

and dont sometimes people think of "committed" relationship as married? or was there a spot on his profile that he could click on for divorced or never married. I have never been married (never been asked) ..have had just a "few" long term relationships..sometimes life happens or one is not out there dating at points in their life. I wouldnt say i was a commitment phobe...more than likely rather someone who was dealing with a lot and didn't want to bring another into it or others couldnt handle it. etc.

I think you will find as time marches on..there will be more and more in gen x (post baby boom generation and pre-whatever generation they call it now.."Y?) that havent married. The generation after gen x...gets married earlier..then you will find there are more divorces later.
I went into adulthood in the 80's, older parents divorced when young, tulmultous 70's young kid-teens, women working after seeing previous generation not...the freedoms , then struggling in the 90's lol...i bet there are more 35-40'a not ever married then in any other time in america.
I perhaps just skipped over having to get a divorce. My generation is always the one stuck in the wierdest times, 80's bad hair and clothes and music lol and now we are in between the cracks of generations who married early lol etc. Branded are we gen x.
commentary only,
Lizzie

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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 1:38pm

I am 46 and never made it to the altar, either. Not that I've tried all that hard. I've done everything else though, including raising a family. I consider myself a deeply committed person -- my family, my job, my friends.

Why I'm looking for marriage at this late stage in my life is something I ponder on a daily basis! Maybe I'm more of a romantic than I'd like to think!

About pets: what's the big deal whether one owns one, a cat, a dog, a horse or none at all? I don't get that.

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Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 1:53pm
I talked to him on the phone yesterday. He is very focused on self and did most of the talking. He also mentioned that he dated 3 women recently and they all broke up with him and told him the reason "they were not ready for committed relationship" :). When he told me that "the last one actually had a chance to land him" I decided to pass.
It's not that I mind cats - I have one too but all the other things combined make for a certain personality that just wouldn't work for me.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: ivosoh
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:32pm

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Curious... Did he at least try to get to know you a bit?

Kerry


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Registered: 01-31-2004
In reply to: ivosoh
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:48pm
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no, he kept talking about himself, his job and how everyone there loves him. I asked him "how long have you been with the company?" and he said "5 weeks" :)