A Challenge...

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Registered: 05-31-2005
A Challenge...
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Thu, 10-13-2005 - 10:11pm

So ya'll know I'm big into challenges, right? Well if you didn't, then now ya do. LOL


Ladies and gents, a challenge, should you choose to accept...


Tomorrow I'd like you to go up to a complete stranger, find a chance to smile and start a conversation. No rules about what you talk about or how long you speak. The only rule here is that it has to be a member of the gender you are looking to have a relationship with and you have to find them attractive.


If you decide to join the challenge, post back here tomorrow regarding who you talked to, what his/her reaction was and what you talked about. And also share any thoughts surrounding your experience.


(For those of you wondering why I'm suggesting this, it's just to open up yet another avenue of opportunity for us!)


Good luck to all. I look forward to reading about those who accepted this!


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Registered: 10-08-2005
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 7:12pm

Ok, it was really hard, but I did it. It didn't lead anywhere, but I conquered my fear! (this time)..

I asked a guy in Williams-Sonoma if he tried the pumpkin bread, because it was really good. He smiled and said that he did, because the smell was calling to him. Then he continued shopping & I did too. Then I talked to a cute guy in the grocery store about cereal, and today I struck up a conversation with another cute guy in Starbucks....however, none of them left with my phone number...because none of them asked!!! *sigh!*

I think my "flirt is on the fritz"!! I'm gonna keep practicing though!!

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 10:45pm

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None of my flirts have gotten me anywhere so far either, but ya know...this is a great challenge and we all should be more aware of the opportunities that are out there AND take an active role in getting what we want. I've decided to make it a point to do this at least once a day.

BTW...Tony, the DUI class guy from Friday was back this afternoon. He made a point to find out when my days off were. Don't know why though. Not that I'd pursue anything with him. The ritualistic lunch time brews are a little much for me. It's fun flirting with him though;P Does that make me a tease? LOL

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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 10:59pm

I am proud of all of you for doing this...


This flirting does not need to go anywhere. This is just about practicing and opening up options. And yes, talking about your boots does count Stacey!


This was just an exercise in doing something you don't usually do to help build some confidence or to make you more fluid... ;o)


As for me, I did not see one guy that I could honestly say I was attraced to again. Then again, I'm in the middle of nowhere right now so that may be a part of the problem. Let's see what comes of it this week...


For the rest of you, keep reporting! Ya making me smile by getting out there and doing this. :o)


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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 8:37am
LOL

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 1:00pm
This is surprisingly difficult. I have nothing to contribute.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 1:30pm
Well you have a few more days, so go for it! Just keep saying "I think I can. I think I can." And then do it!

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Registered: 10-08-2005
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 7:05pm

I did it again!!! Could my inhibitions really be melting a bit?? If so, I owe it all to you, bklynchik, cause I never would have gotten up the nerve unless challenged!! This time I struck up an actual conversation & I was much more relaxed. Then I ran into my girlfriend who was with a guy - not her boyfriend. We talked for a little while...but I forgot his name when he told me!!! We go to the same gym, so I'll have to do what Sheri did & get his name from my friend :)

Sounds like everyone else out there is doing great - cheers to us all!!

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 9:49pm

Fascinating response to this challenge. Not that it is a new idea: all the books about dating and romance order the reader to do this. But I didn't expect the women here (apparently no men responded) to have to be TOLD to try to meet men, to speak to them, to (gasp) Flirt!

When I was a teen, I was truly shy. I conquered that in my early 20s. I learned "how to talk to anyone about anything" (sorry, that's the name of a book by Barbara Walters, I believe). I've never really learned to flirt, as in "Oh, you are so strong!" while batting my eyelashes. (If you want to see it done, go to a bar in Spain; the Spanish girls lay it on thick!) My romantic conquests peaked in my twenties and tapered off in my thirties...to nothing. Just SPEAKING to strange men didn't necessarily lead to romance and over the decades there came to be fewer and fewer men who appealed to me...at first sight, anyhow (and not counting those who were far too young). Recently I was at an outdoor event with my boyfriend (at long last I have one) and I scanned around the area, pretending that I didn't know anyone and was Man-Hunting. I realized that I probably would NOT focus on my boyfriend as a possible interest. I would say, "Hmm, that one's tall, but he looks sort of tired, and what shabby, ill-fitting clothes..." Now that made me laugh at myself, as I do not consciously think about men's clothing. It's just that he dresses himself in the thrift stores.... :)

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Thu, 10-20-2005 - 10:44am

>I look forward to reading about those who accepted this!

The 'more' button was missing. I would have posted in this thread.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlcyber&msg=10269.6

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