Changing Your Dating Patterns
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|Fri, 09-21-2012 - 8:59pm|
I have always dated guys because they talked to me first not because I liked them or shared similar interests. This situation rarely lead to any relationships whatsoever for me. These are guys that share my ethnicity, but I do not much in common with them. I want to date open minded types not guys focused on identifying only by their race. I live in Brooklyn and their should be plenty of open-minded people here, but I still get approached by guys I don't care for. As I am approaching 30, I realized how much of my life was not lived how I wanted to live simply because I had to stay in a stereotype.
I have an online dating profile that states that my musical tastes are folksy rock, classical etc. All my photos show me hiking or apple picking with my multicultural group of friends. It also states that I love going to museums regularly and engaging in cultural activities. I even put that I am in a trivia league. I think this would make it clear the type of person that I am, yet I keep getting the same men messaging me. Men outside of my ethnicity have barely messaged me and in the past the ones that I dated expected me to be a stereotype. On the street, these guys look but don't say anything. This is extremely perplexing to me. I want a man with similar interests not just a man that assumes I am something I am not. Please let me know if you have any advice.