chatting for months, no date
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chatting for months, no date
| Sun, 02-26-2006 - 9:53pm |
I got a response on match.com around christmas time, which I ignored at first but then decided to write back to. We've been chatting online ever since, but haven't gone out! It's annoying because I really like talking to him and we seem to have lots in common. I've been doing online dating for years and this has never happened. I asked him out at one point and he said ok and he'd get back to me on when he was free that week, but then stuff blew up at work for him and he seemed to have forgotten about it. I assume he just isn't interested, but he does IM me (it's not just me IMing him) and we always seem to have a good conversation. Anyone know what could be going here???

Edited 2/27/2006 1:51 pm ET by jjjj2004
I don't think that you should necessarily stop talking to him, but you need to either meet him and stop keeping him on the back burner and/or clarify things with the other guy. It's not fair to back-burner guy to keep putting him off if you don't have any intention of meeting him. I understand and encourage to keep your options open now, but not if you're not seriously doing that which you're not. You are hoping that your other guy brings up exclusivity. He may not and meanwhile, you are stringing this other guy along. If you want to be exclusive with the first guy, there is no harm in saying something - if he feels the same way, he will be happy you brought it up. If he's not ready, then you will know for sure and be able to decide what to do - keep seeing him while seeing others or cut bait and move on.
As for the OP, I still would not be convinced he's not in a relationship. He may not be initiating sex talk, but his reluctance to meet suggests that he's in some way not looking for a relationship - either he's already in one or he's looking for a penpal. Suggest meeting one more time and see how it goes. If he puts you off, next him.