Checking in...and have a question?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Checking in...and have a question?
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Fri, 01-20-2006 - 12:32pm

It's been awhile since I've posted. I'm still dating "D" (motorcycle guy) and it'll be 7 months next week. For the most part, everything is great!!!! But there are a few things that creep in my head to fester...
1. the "L" word has not been said (not a big deal)
2. he still has female contacts on his yahoo messenger list that text him (which I've asked him about and he says they are friends and he usually doesn't reply back)
3. talks from both sides of his mouth - tells most people that I'm his girlfriend but when I asked him to tell an ex about me he said he was a coward (?)

It's tough since we're 3 hrs away but we've been trying to see each other every weekend and he continually makes plans every week and we're still going on a cruise in March and he talks about trips in the summer together....
I know I do need to focus on the positive (which is alot) but the negative comes out every now and then.!!
Any advice on dealing with this??
thanks!!

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 2:59pm

Hi Donna!


Hummm those are valid concerns.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 1:03pm

I'd pay a lot of attention that he doesn't want to tell certain people about you.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 3:36pm

About not hearing the L word it is no biggie now but after ea year if you dont hear move on. No regrets.

About the ex you need a valid explanation or you should be really concerned.
Positive is good but the problem is guys who are not outright bad end up wasting our time and energy. You need a guy who is great not someone who is half half.
I hope things will be clearer after you talk to him

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 11:11am

Hi Donna, glad to see you back (you should visit more often)!


The thing that causes alarms to occur from your post is the fact that he does not want to tell his ex. (Though I'm curious as to how it came about that you asked him to tell the ex?) There should be no reason he's hiding you and if he is, you have to wonder what the motivation is behind it.


Is he still close with his ex or something?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 8:49am
Well, we talked this weekend and he told me to not be so paranoid and that he has no hidden agendas and no other women he's interested in. He said he hasn't told his ex-girlfriend because he doesn't respond to her emails or texts but he says if she were to ever call him he would tell her he was dating me. (it came up because she texted him last wknd and I jokingly said to text her back and tell her you with me! he said he doesn't reply back to her).
He asked if I knew how much he liked me and appreciated me and said I was the best thing that's happened in his life. He said he's learned from past experiences to take things slow and not rush anything. I told him it was important to me to be able to talk to him about my feelings. We agreed that communication builds trust. All in all, it was a good weekend...hate the distance though!!