Clingons & guys using maturity excuse

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Clingons & guys using maturity excuse
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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 12:25pm

It has been an interesting week OLD wise. First, on Match, I have been getting fairly good traffic and response rate lately. Several winks and emails - I must be at the top of the rotation. So I come back to the age-old question of why men think that just because they are a couple years out of your age range and/or "I look/act younger than my age" that they think it is still OK to contact you? I had a guy that was 41 (my top age is 39 and I am thinking of lowering that b/c I still think that is older than I would date) and so I sent him the little Match canned reply of "Thanks for writing to me, but unfortunately, we're just not a good match. Good luck in your search! Our profiles didn't match on: Age" In my new days of honesty, I figure I might as well let him know why I don't think we are a match (I was alno NOT physical attracted, but I don't believe in being harsh and saying the physical thing as a reason when there are less insulting ones). So no big deal. Well he replies back with the same old thing - "Sorry to hear that, I look more at maturity, seven years is not a big difference to me.. Best wishes to you.." Well, I don't care if it is not a big deal to you, it is a big deal to me! Sheesh.

Then, this morning, I saw that I had a message on my cell. I look at the number and it was this guy from MM that I had talked to a couple times and after talking, I just decided that I wasn't all that interested. We hadn't met, we'd talked on the phone a couple times including once when he called on Sunday afternoon to see if I wanted to get together because he was "driving around enjoying the great weather" and we had discussed earlier in the week that we shoudl get together. Well, sorry, calling me Sunday afternoon to get together in half an hour - nope. I said no but said he should call later in the week and we could arrange something else. He didn't call. That was 3 weeks ago and I wasn't interested enough to call him. So I listen to the message and he said he just "wanted to see if I could talk for a few minutes". HUH? I'm not going to call back - I just don't care that much.

Sigh... I didn't have much to say. Just kind of wanted to vent.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:28pm

I was trying to give him a chance and I am not good at confrontation. Yes, I wasn't all that interested, but if he called, I was willing to set up a meeting to see if he was just a bad phone talker. He hasn't called in 3 weeks and I have not called him. I just find it a little odd that he called out of the blue.

And don't start on the cruel thing. What I did was not cruel - my interest had waned but I was giving it one last shot. He didn't follow up so I let it go. You and condorski in this together?

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:55pm
umm, been online dating much?
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 9:32am
Darn it all, why do I always read these posts AFTER the "bad" messages get deleted?????

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Fri, 04-22-2005 - 9:57am

Vex-I didn't read most of the replies...

But this is the exact reason why I don't like to send Thanks but no Thanks. I usually get an arguement..which just make for more negative energy in the end that what it was worth.

Jodie

 

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 10:44am

ROFLOL

I was just telling Knees that I ALWAYS miss the juicy stuff. And I was even here last night, but I guess I logged off JUST before things got interesting.


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Registered: 08-19-2004
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 11:40am
CGUN - You took the words out of my mouth! It's sooooo frustrating to see all those "message deleted" things and wonder just how juicy those posts were!!
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 11:55am
If anyone is interested, email me and I'll be happy to give you my side of the story.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 1:09pm
I know they say curiosity killed the cat, but I e-mailed you.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 1:56pm
Me too - LOL


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Registered: 07-03-2004
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 5:56pm
I don't need to hear your side, since you're not on ignore. Maybe I should email someone else?