Clingons & guys using maturity excuse

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Clingons & guys using maturity excuse
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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 12:25pm

It has been an interesting week OLD wise. First, on Match, I have been getting fairly good traffic and response rate lately. Several winks and emails - I must be at the top of the rotation. So I come back to the age-old question of why men think that just because they are a couple years out of your age range and/or "I look/act younger than my age" that they think it is still OK to contact you? I had a guy that was 41 (my top age is 39 and I am thinking of lowering that b/c I still think that is older than I would date) and so I sent him the little Match canned reply of "Thanks for writing to me, but unfortunately, we're just not a good match. Good luck in your search! Our profiles didn't match on: Age" In my new days of honesty, I figure I might as well let him know why I don't think we are a match (I was alno NOT physical attracted, but I don't believe in being harsh and saying the physical thing as a reason when there are less insulting ones). So no big deal. Well he replies back with the same old thing - "Sorry to hear that, I look more at maturity, seven years is not a big difference to me.. Best wishes to you.." Well, I don't care if it is not a big deal to you, it is a big deal to me! Sheesh.

Then, this morning, I saw that I had a message on my cell. I look at the number and it was this guy from MM that I had talked to a couple times and after talking, I just decided that I wasn't all that interested. We hadn't met, we'd talked on the phone a couple times including once when he called on Sunday afternoon to see if I wanted to get together because he was "driving around enjoying the great weather" and we had discussed earlier in the week that we shoudl get together. Well, sorry, calling me Sunday afternoon to get together in half an hour - nope. I said no but said he should call later in the week and we could arrange something else. He didn't call. That was 3 weeks ago and I wasn't interested enough to call him. So I listen to the message and he said he just "wanted to see if I could talk for a few minutes". HUH? I'm not going to call back - I just don't care that much.

Sigh... I didn't have much to say. Just kind of wanted to vent.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 11:28am
No kidding! I have to admit that curiosity got the better of me and I wanted to see some of the things he said back but they were all gone. Hmm...

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