Clingy guy update

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Clingy guy update
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 1:37pm

ARGH! You know, just the other day I was wondering if I'd made a mistake by not seeing him...or anyone...anymore. I accidentally un-hid my Match profile yesterday (I don't know how, stupid Match) then get this email from clingy guy today.

Annie,

Went in to Match to check my mail and saw your profile up. I thought
you
were giving the dating scene a rest?

"This is a brush-off,
>I know, but it really isn't. If I could, I'd love to
>get to know you better, but I don't feel into dating
>anyone right now."

I'm just really confused. If the chemistry wasn't there, I wish you had
just
said so. Despite everything I did want to say that I do hope you're
doing
well, and good luck when school starts up in July.

Grant

Okay, so now he's keeping tabs on me? I think now that I made the right decision. I think he'd be way too clingy if we dated.

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 1:45pm

Ok, I'm confused ;-).

I thought you were taking your profile down?

And even if you're not, didn't you tell this guy AFTER you sent that first email about giving the dating scene a rest that you didn't feel that the two of you were a match and just wanted to be platonic friends? It sounds like you need to send him that email again!

In any event, that's why I never give "taking a break from dating" as a reason for not continuing to see a guy. If you don't take your profile down, or you change your mind or whatever, it comes across as a lie.

Sheri

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 1:49pm

Well, I DID take my profile down, or at least I thought I did. But I got a wink from someone on Match, which I didn't think could happen if it was hidden. Somehow my profile got unhidden or never deactivated in the first place. It doesn't surprise me because I've had guys email me on ther saying "it's funny that we were on at the time same time tonight" when I hadn't been online for over a week. Match has some bigtime bugs.

I have a grand total of 3 days off in the whole month of October. I seriously can't date right now.

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 1:53pm

So, did you try to hide it again? I've never had any problem with doing so, but have had other problems with Match so it doesn't surprise me...

And I'm sorry to keep asking this, but I'm just really curious...you DID send him that 2nd email about just being friends, right? I'm not thinking about someone else? It just floors me that he's completely disregarding that one...

Sheri

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 2:01pm

Yes, I went onto Match & hid it again. Hopefully it will stay hidden this time. I may be up to dating again after the holidays. I hope to be able to move into my own place in the spring, too, so we'll see.

Yep, I sent him the second email. I think he's in denial. This just mystifies me because I was feeling like crap the night of our date, was not myself at all, yet he was totally into me...too much, actually.