Closure to 'old' ...
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| Wed, 05-11-2005 - 11:44am |
Morning All,
Well compadres, its official, my voyage on the Cruise ship Match has come to an end. This morning I canceled my paid member services and deactivated my account. So after 3 months of participation and 6,634 views to my profile later, unfortunately for me Mr. Right just wasn't out there in cyberspace :(
To summarize the experience;
Number of actual First Meets in three month time period; 3
Guy #1> we meet for coffee, he then disappears immediately thereafter from the dating site, doesn't respond to a friendly 'hello' email and essentially ghosts on me
Guy #2> Mr. Pool Hustler with a history of AODA issues, amongst other things
Guy #3> an older gentleman (6 yrs. my senior) never married & no kids and who I compromised one of my items on my non-negotiables list for > ghosts on me (?)
The Downsides of my OLD experience;
>Initially, IT issues when posting my photos.
>The 'Nasty' grams and 'Weirdo' grams.
>Receiving emails with Sexually explicit and distasteful content.
>Getting winks & emails from guys that were either in there twenties or mid to latter
fifties n up.
>Being stood up for a dinner date with someone that I had emailed for 3 weeks and had also spoken with by phone.
>Men that wrote to me and who I responded to by email but then never heard back again.
>The major disparity between number of overall views and who actually shows up under who
has viewed you (the #'s don't add up). Appears there must be alot of (nonpaying) men in cyberspace who get some personal pleasure from looking at women on online dating sites.... Gee, my claim to fame is being an 'old' centerfold pic (LOL).
More Interesting Winks/Emails that I had recieved but I felt I just didn't click with due to age and other misc compatibility red flags ;
> a Physician
> several lawyers
> a FOX television Newscaster
> several men who owned their own businesses
> a guitarist in a rock n'roll band
> a media man that works with the NBC stations throughout the U.S.
Okay, so that pretty much wraps up the 3 month voyage for me on Cruise ship "OLD". So I'm back on dry land now and I am considering trying out a different type of service which can be found in larger cities. Its called, It's Just Lunch and more info about this organization and there services can be found on the world wide web.
I will admit that I am feeling a bit sad and disappointed this morning as I look back on these past three months. Kind of feels like I invested in a Stock share that never took off...
Anyways, just needed to put some closure to the whole experience and also wanted to sincerely thank all those compadres on the board who provided me with very insightful advice as well as written emotional support throughout these past three months. You have all been really great :) LM

Good luck with "It's Just Lunch". I called the Phoenix office and they told me that they charged $1,200 for 12 dates. They guarantee that they will match you up with at least 1 date a month. $120 is alot for a date...I'd rather travel.
Let us know how that works!!
$1,200 for 10 dates!
I don't think my Match fees were over $120 -- and I got 10 to 12 pretty good people out of that over the course of a year.
kathy748 you wrote,
> I don't think many of them are serious about it. I think they just feel good when girls talk to them <
WOW, can I totally relate to what you are saying ! There were many times during the course of these past 3 months where those very same thoughts had crossed my mind. Which in turn makes it harder for those of us who are genuinely trying to meet someone that we can be compatible with and of course 'click' with, as the saying goes. I think that one of the reasons I feel saddened by my experience is because I did put alot of personal time and energy into 'old'. If the truth be known, I even made revisions to my profile on 3 separate occasions, everytime with the hope that perhaps it would better assist with drawing the attention of the type of quality gentleman that I was searching for. My photos certainly got alot of attention (LOL).
I think I'm more so grieving because like with anything in life, when you invest personal time and energy into something, like a project (or whatever it be), and you don't get any results its naturally going to leave you feeling disappointed (and frustrated). All one can do at that point is learn from the errors/mistakes and
know that you need to try a different approach.
As for the other service I was considering, called Its Just Lunch , I really don't know that much about it other than what I heard on a radio broadcast interview and what I read about it on the world wide web. Another person posted a response here saying that the prices were rather steep in Arizona. I clearly don't know what they are charging up here in my region, as I have not yet called their office directly to find out. And yes, obviously ! , if it turns out that their prices are the same from location to location, then I guess I'll be 'nixing' that approach as well. As a student enrolled in a pre-med school program, I really can't afford that.
Heres what I do know for sure. I tryed 'old' briefly last Fall (had no first meets whatsoever) and then after taking a short break from it, tryed it again from Feb through now. OLD doesn't work for everyone. Some people do get lucky and others don't. Unfortunately,I belong to the latter of the 2 groups.
In the the interim though, I will however hang onto the notion that somewhere out there is my Mr. Right who is waiting to meet me as much as I am waiting to meet him... :) LM