Coffee for a second date?

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Registered: 06-26-2007
Coffee for a second date?
Sun, 01-12-2014 - 11:11am

Met  a guy online. he is 40 I am 34. He is divorced and has one daughter (ive never dated someone in this situation before). We had drinks and apps on first date, I felt like it went well. He has now asked me to go for coffee this week. Seems very casual to me. Is this a "normal" second date??

Also, are there any differences I should anticpate in dating a divorcee w a child?? Ive only gone out with single, childrenless guys!



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Registered: 03-22-2014
Sat, 03-22-2014 - 5:58pm
Thanks everyone! I wish I could give you all best answer. :)
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Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 01-19-2014 - 3:53am

I'm a 50 year old man and this sounds a little cheap to me. Normally, when I was single, on a first date with someone I met online, I'd just meet for a beverage, since so much of online dating is a dead end. However, on a second date, I'd generally splurge for dinner. Maybe he is hurting from child support and alimony payments. Whatever his reasoning or circumstances, I don't see this as a positive sign for your future with him.

As to differences with dating men with children, just as Musiclover12 said, their children are usually a priority that needs to be respected.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 01-12-2014 - 11:38am

Maybe he doesn't think of this as a traditional "date" but more of an opportunity to get together & talk esp. if it's during the week.  I'd say that the biggest difference in dating someone with a child is that you have to realize that he has obligations to his child that have to be met.  If he's the non-custodial parent, for example, say that every Wednesday is his night to be with his child or maybe every other Sat. night--you will have to realize that is an important time for him and if you have something that you want to do that conflicts with his parenting time, that he might not be able to do it.