coming out of lurkdom with a problem
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coming out of lurkdom with a problem
| Sun, 09-04-2005 - 12:54pm |
Well, I met a guy last night that I met through match. com and we've been talking for a month. We hadnt met yet cuz he lives about an hour away from me. Anyway, this guy has all the qualities that I look for in someone, plus we have tons of things in common. He's cute and has pretty eyes, but there is a problem. His teeth are gross, not all his teeth, just the top from what I could tell. That being said, how do I get past this? I didnt notice bad breath, and he was a clean person, clean shaving, neat clothes, etc. I just don't know what to do about this. I really like him, and could like him a lot more but this teeth thing makes me feel shallow and petty. Any advice would be very appreciated.
Tracie

i guess it depends what the problem is though. if he just needs to brush more or use one of those whitening treatments, a little gentle hinting might be enough to get him to change his behavior - i'm sure he doesn't want women to think his teeth are gross.
I was attacted to my ex-fiance largely in part because he had FANTASTIC teeth. I had never seen a guy with better teeth, so it was definitely a plus. If it's a matter of simple whitening, perhaps it can be overcome. If he needs a total dental overhaul, though, perhaps it is a dealbreaker.
Annie
I admit that my teeth aren't the whitest, but I brush twice a day, just a slight yellow from age. There's a difference between gross & just your normal slight yellowing due to time. We need details! :)
Annie
well, the words total dental overhaul spring to mind. I mean its not all his teeth, just the ones in front on top. I feel so shallow stressing about this
Tracie
Interesting topic of discussion. Ive always been and still am a stickler about a guy's teeth. Automatic dealbreaker if his teeth were jacked up -- lil yellowing I can deal with but the type you can scrape off with your fingernails -- eewwww!!!!
Ironically, 2 months ago my crown fell out and I was devastated. I, of course, ran to the dentist and although I have dental insurance, to replace the crown (which they cannot do) I need to either get a bridge done ($3500) or an implant ($5,000), which they prefer to do an implant since the two surroundng teeth are in good condition. Needless to say I'm working overtime to save the money to get the crown fixed. All this to say, that although I like pretty teeth, I have a newfound understanding when I meet people whose teeth are "jacked up!"
Outside of insurance (and not many companies offer dental insurance) it is pretty expensive to have dental work done! As stated, I have lil yellowing, fix the gap with an implant, including some veneers, whitening (back teeth), replacing my fillings to white ones, the total cost was approx. $25,000. Obviously the look I would love to have would require me waiting another 10-15 years (I'm 44) and just having all my teeth taken out and get "white" dentures! LOL
Okay, would I still date a guy with "jacked up" teeth? Nope, it would be very difficult -- but note I would feel bad for them since I know it is expensive!!!
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Tracie