Commitment-phobic, anyone?

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Commitment-phobic, anyone?
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Sun, 04-17-2005 - 9:04am
Question 1. I have a sinking suspicion that the guy I am about to see today for the second time has serious commitment issues. Am I wasting my time? Can these people ever change? I have read an article sometime ago that suggest - run the other way while you still can.
Question 2. If a guy is 36 and has been doing old for at least 5 years - that's a bad sign, isn't it?
Any advice here?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 8:46pm
lg - you're an accountant? I thought you were a computer consultant? Oh, and you're 5'10" right?
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 5:37am
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 5:40am

oh, no way am I 5'10" according to the amazon queen who I met who WAS 5'10" and stated 5'5". She also had one blurry photo that didn't look much like her and went on to tell me how none of my 8 photos resembled me.

You meet all kinds online.

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 12:51pm

>>I just sent an e-mail.
"Would like to cancel tomorrow plans. I just don't feel we are a good match", block, done. <<

Good for you! That's the best way to handle it. He might be puzzled, because he might be thinking you guys had a lot more of a connection than you really did; but that's his perception problem, not yours.

Far better to have been clear and say "sorry, we don't match" and move on. Now we don't have to shun you for ghosting on him. :)

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