Condo keeps coming in conversation

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Condo keeps coming in conversation
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Sat, 01-14-2006 - 12:14am

condo is mentioned on his profile. Ok maybe unintended
Tonight was first time we talked, he mentions Condo renovation and shopping for furniture again
His backstage has a picture in his condo style kitchen

is this one red flag or three?? he strikes me as someone who wants to impress with his $$

We are supposed to meet on Sunday. but since I only have time off on the weekend and work and study 12 hours a day I m not sure I should waste my time talking about his Condo :~P

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 7:53am
If this man is knee-deep in home rennovations I can understand that the process can consume his thoughts. But even he should understand that this stuff is pretty boring to, well, just about anyone.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 7:58am
Maybe he's just excited is he a first time homebuyer. If I just bought something I would be excited and probably wouldn't notice how much I talked about it.
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 11:22am

I don't think it's a red flag. It's possible he just bought it and he's excited. And, as someone who's renovating, it DOES take up a lot of time and unfortunately is a huge topic of conversation.

Of course, he could be like me - I used to not make any mention of the fact I owned a house until I went on a date with a guy who called me stuck up and bourgeois for not renting (??). Now I try to drop it into conversation to weed those kind of guys out.


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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 11:24am
Excellent point SS. I just bought my first home in October and I am very proud of the fact. I am doing some of the work myself and am planning projects and things once my bonus at work comes through. I probably talk about it too much and I am a woman. Men love all that home renovation stuff and if he is doing his work himself, he's probably proud of it and doesn't realize that yeah, it's not all that exciting to everyone else! I would keep an eye out to see HOW he talks about it and himself. If he seems self-absorbed and all that, then I'd probably next him but if he seems genuinely excited and this is his "pet project" but he is into other things and still attentive to me, then I'd give him some leeway.

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